(Closed) Should I be disappointed in a tiny family heirloom engagement ring?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you be disappointed in a tiny heirloom ring?

    Absolutely, I deserve BIGGER!

    A little bit, maybe upgrade down the line

    No, it's value is in the history of it

  • Post # 61
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

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    gingermamalife:  My ring isn’t an heirloom by any means, but I’ve had a few weird reactions to mine as well because I researched and chose my ring (set) based on my own tastes, which Fiance was grateful for.  I chose a ring with a small center diamond and 6 tiny accent diamonds – it’s 1/6 carat total weight and I love it.  It fits my hands perfectly and I will wear it for the rest of my life.  One of FI’s cousins said something about the ring being a little small and I told her I picked it and she was like “…oh.”

    I don’t think you should feel anything about your ring but what you think you should feel.  Other people don’t matter, this is your relationship with your mister, and the ring has an incredible amount of meaning and sentimentality to it.

    Post # 62
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

     

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    gingermamalife:  I like it. It’s pretty and has meaning and who cares what anyone else thinks. You should love it and not feel bad for loving it.  If you want to add more to it later then you could always add a sparkly wedding band! 

    Post # 63
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    Wow, that’s a nice collection of rings in the OP follow up post. I think the sentiment totally trumps the size of the stone. He gave you a one of a kind ring that’s a part of his family; most people aren’t so lucky to have that. 

    Post # 64
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    Bumble bee

    Honestly, that is REALLY tiny…I’d be dissapointed too. I wouldn’ go so far as to say I deserve bigger however.

    I think this could make a great right hand ring. or wedding ring even. but eventually, i would want an upgrade. I’d still want to keep this ring for sentimental purposes however.

    Post # 65
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I’ve had people be a jerk to me about my small, heirloom ring. It’s really hard to brush the comments aside when it’s not just once or twice, and I’ve always been self-conscious about having large hands, so I worry that it’s my man hands making my smaller stone more noticeable.

    But I honestly feel like after we’re out of the engagement stage and into married life, people will notice/ care less. Also, other people will never understand how meaningful having something with history from your fiance’s entire family (not just an object that cost him as an individual a hunk of change) is! It means a lot to me that his family was so supportive of the engagement that they gave him a family ring to propose with. Sometimes I am jealous of women who got to pick out a ring that suited their personal taste (it’s not so much a size thing), but I figure maybe someday, if it’s still important, I’ll get a beautiful right hand ring for myself or ask for one as an anniversary gift. 

    Post # 66
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2016 - Rustic secluded mountain lodge

    It’s gorgeous! And if you want, use it as your wedding band and get the bigger diamond Engagement Ring that complimemts it. Best of both worlds ☺️ But don’t do anything to please others, if you’re happy, thats all that matters.

    Post # 67
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    Helper bee

    I was the one asking for more pictures, and OP, I still think it is simply beautiful, a gorgeous vintage piece with the added personal signifigance!

    I don’t know whether some of the commenters have only read the topic line and are answering based on that, but I would encourage you to stick with the ring and your plans on completing the set with a rose gold wedding band. I think it will look very sophisticated.

    Post # 68
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    Busy bee

    I really like your ring, but as a PP said, I’d use it as a band. I’d want a more traditional ering for an ering, but I’d also want the ering to go with my band.

     

    HOWEVER

     

    The rule I have with rings is this…do YOU love it? Do YOU want to wear it for the rest of your life or do YOU want to upgrade it or use it like I had said?? Nobody else’s opinions really matter. It’s yours that does.

    • This reply was modified 5 years ago by  CookieLady.
    Post # 69
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    Bumble bee

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    gingermamalife:  You’re not wrong at all for loving your ring. Please don’t let others psych you out/cause you to second-guess yourself and FH. I think it’ll go great with a thin wedding band, plain or with stones.

     

    Post # 70
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    Helper bee

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    gingermamalife:  people are so rude. I would never look at someones ring and judge the man about his financial situation! I think it is absolutely wonderful to have something that means so much to the entire family. Its a gorgeous ring. Im sure its dissapointing to have to answer peoplez questions about the size, which, quite frankly, is a disgusting thing to ever ask anybody…but screw them! Its not about size, cut, clearity – its about the meaning behind the ring and the eternal love that comes with it!! 

    Its stunning and dont let fools bring you down! 

    Post # 71
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    Newbee

    I love it! Many married couples I’ve seen don’t even wear their bigger engagement ring anyways, so you can tell people that it’s a band. So many people get big diamond rings, but this is so cool, historic, and eternal!

    Post # 72
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

    Honestly, for someone to look at an engagement ring and say something negative automatically makes that person a big old slice of douche pie. If you like the ring, that’s all that matters.

    Post # 73
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    OP- I love, love, love your ring!!  Don’t let what others say or think about your ring diminish your exceitment about it!  I made that mistake years ago when I first got engaged.  We were young college kids with NO money.  My fiance bought me a ring and I loved it until I started to get not so nice comments and started to compare it to rings that my friends and family had.  To this day I still miss that ring (upgraded) and wish I had it back. 

    Anyway, congrats on the engagement! I also have a vintage ring (not handed down to me) that my kids bought me for mother’s day…I had mentioned I wanted one.  It’s a small diamond, but I love it! I will post a pic of it

     

    Post # 74
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Here is my ring 🙂 not sure why it’s upside down…LOL and the picture makes it look huge…

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    Post # 75
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    Haters gonna hate. It’s a beautiful, meaningful, and unique ring. Ignore them and enjoy your ring. 

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