Post # 1
Am I the most crazy person who posts on these boards. I hope not. Here I am, 33, and asking the internet ad nauseam for advice.
As usual, I’d like to post about my wedding dress(es). Namely, I bought a sample dress thats going to cost $2,500 (the cost of the dress itself) to alter down to my size. I would like to buy another dress but can’t afford it, and I have a dress from a previous engagement that fits me, looks good on me, and looks dated and cupcake like.
Now that I’m more and more concerned about money I’m thinking about wearing the cupcake. My question to you today internet ladies: should I be embarassed to wear this dress?
Will people look at me and think I’m horribly unfashionable? That I’m too old to wear a cupcake dress?
I would take off the flowers and add a little beading in their place. And probably get a rent the runway reception dress because I’m getting married in Florida in Aptil and it will be hot as balls.
Post # 2
You bought that dress for $2,500?
What does the previous engagement dress look like?
Post # 3
I think your old dress would be fine, but I’m not fashionable at all. Also there are tons of dresses out there which are lovely and still under 100 bucks. It would be far sillier to buy a dress and spend the same amount on fitting it to you, no matter how much you like it. I suggest looking around online for the cheapies though – you’ll probably see something affordable that you really like and isn’t from a broken engagement (which some people are squeamish about).
Post # 4
wb123: I’m not a fan of pickups so I personally don’t like it but I wouldn’t think you were crazy for wearing it, I’d just assume that’s what you like. I’m sure there are people who didn’t like my dress…there’s always someone. I don’t think you look like a cupcake though.
But if you are unsure about it, why not try selling the $2500 dress and using that money towards a new dress?
Post # 5
I think if you take the flowers off and replace them with some beading/sparkle/applique it will look more updated! I may be in the minority here (most girls have mermaid dresses). My dress had more of a drop waist with small pickups. I got many compliments about it! Good luck 🙂
Post # 6
wb123: it sounds like you’re not too keen on any of the dresses you have now. I would try and sell it to recoup some money and get the dress you really love!
Post # 7
PinkPearls: this is the previos engagement one
Post # 8
Just my opinion but I love that dress on you. And before I read your post I thought to myself that the only thing I don’t like about it are the flowers.
Post # 9
do you like it? that is all that matters.
some of the styles that are so popular today i find hideous. but to each their own.
wear it and rock it.
Post # 10
wb123: Sorry, not a fan of the dress at all. The fabric looks very cheap and shiny/wrinckly, not a fan of pick-ups and just how it fits overall. This is a new engagement and new chapter – I think it deserves a new dress!!
Post # 11
I actually like it. However, I would not wear it if I were you because you purchased it to marry someone else. Why not sell that dress to help afford the alterations on the other? Or sell both of them and get A new dress?
Post # 12
wb123: Have you asked a seamstress if it would be possible to remove the pickups? The pickups (and flowers) are really the only iffy parts in my opinion. Also, did you get quotes from a couple different people for altering the sample dress? That just seems unbelievably high. I’d get a 2nd (and 3rd) opinion on that if you haven’t already.
Post # 13
OP, I disagree with PP. If you purchased the because you loved it, it doesn’t matter if your circumstances were different then than they are now. I wore a dress I bought during an engagement I ended when I married Darling Husband. I loved it and knew I would never find a dress I loved more. My ex-FI never saw it and honestly had nothing to do with picking *that* dress, so why should I sacrifice the dress I loved because the man wasn’t right for me?!
If you love the dress, wear the dress! I wouldn’t worry too much about it being “dated”- at some point, everything that has to do with all of our weddings will be dated to some degree! Just wear what makes you feel happiest 🙂
Post # 14
Daisy_Mae: Yes, so the pickup dress is made of a duchess satin that, when you take the pickup out still looks wrinkled. Even after ironing the seamstress tried. It’s just that fabric I guess.
As far as the new one taking it to someone else that’s a good thought but I’m nervous to do it because it’s a Monique Lhuillier with gobs of beading and a tulle skirt – and I’m afraid if I take it to some place that doesn’t know what they’re doing they’ll mess up the beading.
Post # 15
I’ve tried listing the sample and it’s not sold yet- and my weddings in April, so if I buy a new one I need to do it now and just hope one of them sells. They may not.