Post # 1
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Newbee
I might be overreacting, but our wedding is one month away (August 13). I sent out save the dates and invitations, of course, but I wasn’t sure how far in advance to put the RSVP by date. We put July 13 as the RSVP reply by date, and invited 137 people. THe RSVP deadline is in two days, and we only have 75 RSVPs. (well, technically not even that many–some family just called and told me whether they could make it or not, but all in all, 75 RSVPs. I had hoped to have 100-120 people actually attend the wedding.
Should I be freaking out just yet over the lack of RSVPs?
Post # 3
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Wannabee
Okay, I’m in the same exact boat. My RSVP deadline is this weekend and over half have NOT RSVP’d and on top of that I have random people who were not invited telling me they’ll see me at my wedding. I have no idea how they found out about details but I’m freaking out! I estimated my guests for the caterer, hoping it’d fall on the smaller end for expense sake. I just can’t figure out why people aren’t RSVPing and I don’t want people who I didn’t invite, inviting themselves. The wedding is only five weeks away and I’m more than worried…Good luck with your situation!!
Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
Wait a few days after the deadline to start calling. People may still put it in the mail on 7-13. Some people just don’t have common sense.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
Hi date twin! I’m starting to get irritated too. I put our RSVP by date for July 15, and I’m waiting on 65 out of 180 RSVPs. I’m just going to wait until next Monday to start calling or messaging on FB to find out if people are coming.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
Hi date twin!
Our RSVP deadline was the 9th and we are still missing a handful of RSVPs. On the day they were due we got 4 in the mail and we got another one today. Don’t stress, your final counts probably aren’t due to your venue for another week or two (at least), so you’re all good.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
Most of the people I contacted after the deadline were like… oh I didn’t send that in?! Oops, sorry. Most of them were not coming, and some of them were. So I would just wait patiently and if you’re still missing a lot call people. If you invited 137 people, I wouldn’t count on 120 people coming though. It seems for that number, about 100 people will end up coming.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
@jessilane2: You still have plenty of time – most people send theirs on the reply date. I know, annoying. More than half of ours came back 5 days past our reply date.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
@Heatherloveskenny: You are so right! I mean it says reply BY not ON. People!
I wouldn’t freak out yet. Give the latecomers another week to find a mailbox.
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
Yes wait a few days and then make some calls.
Post # 11
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Worker bee
My RSVP date was the 8th and I have 50 invites that I did not get RSVPs for, so I am now calling everyone this week to see if they’re coming or not so I can give the venue my final count. It is very stressful, but it will all work out! (at least I hope so) 🙂
Post # 12
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Helper bee
I know how you feel. To be honest i just dont understand how people dont know if they are attending yoru wedding. Most people as soon as they tell their family and friends theyre engaged or at least by the time they have a venue booked, should be able to give an answer up front! Anyways, since your RSVP date is by tomorrow, you should start emailing/facebooking/texting or calling people and ask them up front if they are coming or not. I need to know how many chairs and things I need to rent so I want to know a more accurate estimate etc. I’m aggressive with wanting to know the answer so i would do this hahah..
Post # 13
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Busy bee
I have been hounding people lately and I am just getting the last of my resonses. My coordinator says, no worries. People are slow to commit.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
Yay date twin! I had an earlier due date, june 25th (a lot of out of towners annd I wanted to leave open the possibility of a B-list). I got about half the rsvps back by the due date :(. It took a lot of emails and phone calls to get the rest, though I still have a few non responses from the first round (almost a month later, ridiculous). Definitely wait until after the due date to start bugging people. Btw, we want 120, invited 180, and didn’t even have up to 100 until last week. Finally getting close to 120 with the B-listers trickling in. Good luck!
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