(Closed) Should I be 'given away' or should I walk alone?

posted 5 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: If you were in my shoes, would you walk down the aisle alone?
    Yes : (63 votes)
    94 %
    No : (4 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I would walk alone if I was in your shoes, simply because you don’t feel like a particular person is right for the job. My mom walked down alone because her father was out of the picture for years.. so she wanted to walk alone as a statement that she was independent and okay with that. 

    Post # 4
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    You can do whatever you like!

    I’m in the same position as you – my parents are divorced and I haven’t seen my father in almost 10 years – He actually sent me a birthday card on my 22nd birthday, and it said happy 18th! Thanks “dad”.

    Anyway – I’m having my mom & her husband walk me down the aisle. Even though I don’t see her husband as a “dad”, he sees me as a daughter – the only daughter he’ll ever have.

    I don’t really see it as “given away” per say.

    Perhaps you should ask your mom? At least give her the option of walking her daughter down the aisle – it’s a magical day for moms too!

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @FirstComesLoveNZ:  

    Walk half way alone and have your Fiance meet you and escort you the rest of the way. That way you’re approaching the altar together.

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    @NLbride:  That gave me chills. What a good idea!

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @AmandaShea8:  Wish it were my own idea. I borrowed it from the priest who led our marriage course. He recommended it.

     

    @FirstComesLoveNZ:  🙂 You could always walk 3/4 of the way if he is hesitant.

     

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    Do you get along with your FI’s father? Maybe you could ask him? I know if I didn’t have my dad & brother to ask that my Future Father-In-Law would be my next choice.. but at the end of the day if you like the idea of walking yourself then go for it!!! 

    Post # 10
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    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @FirstComesLoveNZ:  two suggestions: Mom can walk you down the aisle, hug and kiss you at the end of it and then sit. she doesn’t need to utter a word to give you away.

    you can walk part way by yourself, and Fiance can come meet you; you walk the rest of the way together.  symbolic of entering into marriage together, eyes wide open, journeying! 

    OOPS! i just saw that someone suggested this already.  well, obviously, i second it. i really am not excited about my dad walking me down the aisle but it would break his heart if i didn’t ask him to. this is the way i would prefer to do it.

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    if you don’t walk alone (or with FI), think of it as an “escort” down the aisle. not someone to give you away.  

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think the idea of you walking halfway to meet up with your Fiance sounds like a great solution. Another option is that you walk in together. That’s actually a Swedish tradition that symbolizes that you’re equal and that you both walk in to the marriage with joy. My Fiance is Canadian and had never heard about that option until I mentioned it, as soon as he heard it he said “Can we do that!”, so that’s what we’ll do!

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Do what feels right to YOU.  My plan is to have my dad walk me down the aisle – not give me away, but walk with me.  My reasoning was that I’m a total daddy’s girl, and he has stood by me through my overdramatic adolesence, my hateful teenage years, my divorce, all of it.  He backed me up without question, without hesitation.  So of course, I want him walking with me.  If I didn’t have that relationship with him, I wouldn’t want him in that role. 

     @eocenia:  Love the idea of walking in together.  My dad’s health isn’t what it used to be, so if he can’t walk, my fiance and I will probably walk together.  Plus he’s of Swedish descent, so it would be fitting!

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @MariContrary: Glad if I could help! I’m very happy Fiance agreed to it, as I both dad and I would feel awkward walking down the aisle – him as he’s not comfortable with attention and me because of the symbolism.

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @NLbride:  I was going to suggest this as well because I LOVE the idea. Very romantic, unique, and a great solution to the situation. He’s an amazing inspiration shot:

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