Post # 17
@JuneBlushingBride: honey, i am a stripper. and believe me, when we’re at work, it’s not about having fun or picking up on guys. it’s about making $$$. period. so if they were “all over him” or whatever, it was to squeez the cash out of him. and it sounds like they did. i wouldn’t worry.
Post # 18
Let this one go… its not like he does this every weekend
Post # 19
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
I would let this go simply because there is nothing you can do about it. He cant go back and do anything differently. Holding onto it will only cause problems in your relationship. Also, I agree that the strippers (and women in general)are especially into guys in a bachelor party. Strippers want money and single women like the thrill maybe? idk. Either way, he did not hide the fact that he went to the strip club from you and its possible he didnt go into detail about what went on simply because he may have though simply saying a strip club was involved was enough, or because he did not think it appropriate to go into detail about the shenanigans that went on. Its really harmless imo if no “rules” were set prior to his bach party.
As far as you doing the same, I would say do what you want to do but do not do it simply because he had a wild night out. Do what is going to give you the most fun for YOU. know what I mean? good luck!
Post # 20
No way strippers are just nasty and I wouldn’t want their nastiness rubbing up on my future husband I would be pissed too!
Although you didn’t discuss ground rules before he went to Vegas, He probably thought it was fine. I wouldn’t retaliate just because you didn’t tell him beforehand that that kind of stuff bothers you.
Post # 21
Thats kind of a hurtful thing to say especially since we just heard from one of our own bees and she was just trying to reasure the OP. :/
Post # 22
Love it! 🙂
I wouldn’t worry about it and I wouldn’t let this determine how you spend your bach party. Decide on what you want to do and do it for yourself, if you plan a “I can do it too party” you might be more concerned about showing him that you can do too than just having a great time with your girls.
Post # 24
“No way strippers are just nasty and I wouldn’t want their nastiness rubbing up on my future husband”.
and our own bee, @Impatiently waiting
, just mentioned she was a stripper. Kind of an unlady like thing to do and tasteless thing to say. 🙁
Post # 25
@JuneBlushingBride: Ugh. Hearing things from friends is the worst. Have you discussed that with Fiance yet? When I think about FI’s bachelor party I try to think its his last run before being married for…well, ever. So when I look at the big picture it isn’t so bad, right now? Yeah it hurts. I’m sorry, try not to think about it and let it pass.
Post # 27
I would be jealous too. But just remind yourself that it’s a bachelor party and those kinds of things go on. The fact that he really didn’t tell you about the details maybe means that he’s embarrassed/feels bad. I wouldn’t worry too much about it.
Post # 28
@muckmoo1: rude and judgemental.
Post # 29
I wouldn’t like hearing that all of that went down, but I’d try to get over it and move on since there is nothing you can do now, you know? But I definitely can see why you have these feelings! I would feel the same way.
I agree that was pretty rude.
Post # 30
@JuneBlushingBride: While I don’t agree w/ your reasoning to have a crazy bachelorette party – it shouldn’t be a “he did it, so I’m going to do it” – you are totally free to have a crazy party (I did) but it was not as a way of “getting back.”
If you initially wanted a calm party, stick with it, if you want to change it, do it.
Post # 31
i dunno, i wouldn’t try to go “balls to the wall” at your bachelorette party just because he did so at his bachelor party.
i agree with @Sunshining – i think if you go out and do something similar you are going to regret it because it isn’t going to erase what has already happened. i’m not giving him a free pass because i would be very upset if my Fiance did those things (that type of behavior is not okay on any other day of the year – why would it be at his bachelor party?) but i am saying that it’s not a very smart thing to do to to try to get revenge at this point.