(Closed) Should I be mad???

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

When’s their wedding?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Although, I’m sure deep down you are happy for them, I think it is natural to feel this way. We put so much into our weddings that it is hard not to be so protective of it. I don’t think you are horrible, but I think for the good of all of you, you should make the best of this situation. Maybe you and future sister in law can help each other in planning. This may avoid conflicts, and even de-stress somewhat.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

My older brother got married this past December. I had my marriage ceremony this past weekend. I often worried that maybe there would be strained feelings between my SIL that I stole their thunder. I was really conscious not to talk about my business around the time of their wedding and the holidays so they could live in the moment of their wedding, honeymoon and first Christmas as a married couple.

When my ceremony came… he was nothing but happy and supportive. In the end, his being so gracious and enthusiastic meant so so much to me. So although I can understand the stress of planning formal weddings and all the events leading up and not wanting to “double book” or steal thunder… think how much it could mean for your sister to have your unconditional support and excitement!

( I’m aware that I’m probably not the perspective you’re hoping to hear from as I’m a guilty party myself… but for what it’s worth 🙂 )

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’d probably feel the same way to an extent but it’s 2 months away from yours, not 2 weeks….  Maybe try enjoying the planning together?

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

It’s two whole months away; in other words, not a big deal. They are in no way stealing your thunder. Two months after your wedding, your wedding becomes old hat for your friends and family. You’ll have your time in the spotlight and should allow them theirs.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I feel ya! Sometimes it’s great having people who are getting married around you, and other times it’s kind of a pain :(.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I wouldn’t be mad.  People can’t put life on hold.  Two months in between your wedding and theirs is plenty of time.  I’m sure everything will work out.  It’s natural to feel this way though. 

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

lol i feel like ppl on here jump on the wording too harshly. i posted a similar post & i understand you’re just venting so was i. yeah i was frustrated too–still am. i just called my sister & just hammered out the details asap. when she was planning to hold hers & when you were holding yours. & compromising when the dates clash–it can be a little weird when shes not your sister..but better to hammer it out now instead of just hoping the dates dont clash. idk thats what i did & so far so good.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Should you be mad? No. Is it okay that you feel this way? Sure.

Sometimes it’s easy to get a little bothered when you feel like people are stealing your thunder. It’s natural, but not altogether rational.

Just be happy that your wedding is first! Plus you get to have someone who is going to be just as interested in talking about weddings as you are (future SIL)!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

well… just be happy yours is first!! at least you don’t have to worry about your wedding being “too much like theirs” or “not as good as theirs.” Yours will be first! 🙂

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@bluebonnet:

Can you tell that we’re both from Texas 😉

 

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