Post # 107
I would go on the cruise over a shower. I’ve had two showers and only one of my BMs came to one of them– the rest were family members and we had a great time! I’m attending another one by a family friend just before the wedding and I don’t expect any BMs to be there (except the one who previously threw me a shower, cause she’s close to that family friend) but I’d never be mad if they couldn’t make it. I actually would prefer they not attend all of them because I feel guilty about taking so much of their time!
Also, we’re buying a house just before the wedding and aren’t having a housewarming party because we figure we’ve monopolized way too much of our friends’ time over the past year.
Post # 108
@MeeshelleMyBelle: I agree. I don’t like it when people flake on commitments they made. Not cool. She said she’d be there and now she’s not going to. But in the end, what can you do?
Post # 109
@shychigirl: I agree with this. What else can you do? My mom and Future Mother-In-Law are throwing Fiance and I an engagement party this weekend and I’m pretty sure one of my BMs is going to go to another party instead. At first, I was pretty mad and was like “so don’t you care about my wedding?” But after reading so many posts and storys about BMs not being able to make everything…I am just going to let it go. It does suck when you are so excited and hope they are as excited as you are but sometimes it just doesn’t work out that way!
Post # 110
This thread put some things in perspective for me. This coming weekend is my first (of two) shower. FI’s sisters (bridesmaids) are throwing it and only one other Bridesmaid or Best Man can make it. It’s a 2-ish hour drive for most of the girls. So, four out of seven BM’s won’t be there. I admittedly was a little bummed, but being the weekend before a holiday and my Maid/Matron of Honor having another wedding, told everybody it was fine. It is hard to pull yourself away from taking it personal that these parties are not the center of the universe, because it is the center of YOUR universe right now. These girls are all adults, not slaves to be at your beck and call. 85 people is a LOT for a shower. Each of my showers are 20-40 people (about 7-10 overlapping), and we are both coming from big families and had a 500+ person original guest list for the wedding. Ever think that maybe you are inviting some people that might find it odd to be coming to SO many parties for you and your Fiance in a short amount of time?
Post # 111
@mags2233: I can understand why your mad or upset. I would be disappointed too if one of my bridesmaids won’t be able to attend one of my wedding events because I personally make an effort to be at all the events if I’m in the bridal party. Although I would just let it go and move on and enjoy the day with people who there to share that day with you. Once all the wedding events are over, you’re back to your old life with your new husband and many many friends that love you. She probably has her reasons for booking her vacation at the same time. Good luck and I hope you have a lot of fun at all your wedding related events!
Post # 112
I’m closing this thread at the request of the OP.