(Closed) Should I be offended?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

um- bigger issue here is that she is so judgey.  god, if anyone is supposed to support you, it’s your bridesmaids.  if she can’t do that much for you, then you need to talk to her.  i don’t think the bridal shower/bachelorette is the real issue here- but i think the fact that she lied about it certainly is.

Post # 5
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939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Mrs. Meowerson: I agree. I don’t want anyone standing beside me that is going to be judging my actions.  Bridesmaids/groomsmen should be 100% supportive of your wedding. Why would anyone want to even be in a wedding that they didnt’ agree with?

Post # 6
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3255 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Argh, that would irk me, too. I completely agree with the points you ladies have made. But honestly, I think confronting her about it will just stir up drama when you need to be relaxed and calm; you have enough about your wedding coming up to stress over! ๐Ÿ™‚ Go ahead and vent about it to us, but I think for your sanity you shouldn’t talk to her about it.

Post # 7
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148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yeah, you should be offended.  Who wouldn’t be offended about their bridesmaid not coming to their bachelorette party when clearly they have the ability?  If I were you, I wouldn’t nix her from the party, I would just let her feel as unimportant as she’s made you feel. ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 8
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172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes, offended!

But I too, think the bigger issue here is her being a judgemental and unsupportive bridesmaid.  Maybe you can give her the out by saying that you understand she’s really busy these days and wouldn’t be offended if she backed out.  If that doesn’t work, then try to let her know nicely that it’s just not working and you’re really needing someone who can devote more time and be really committed in being part of the wedding party.

Post # 9
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hey.. date twin! I would be annoyed with her being judgemental, but not that she can’t come to the events.  I would call her and let her know you heard she wasn’t coming and wanted to let her know you’d love it if she could make it and if not, that she’ll be missed.  Be the bigger person and see if your nice actions will rub off on her.  Otherwise, let it go and be happy you have other great bridesmaids, you don’t need the drama.

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