(Closed) Should I be offended?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

No not at all.  It would just mean we both shared a special date =)

Post # 5
933 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s not offensive & maybe would help them recall your birthday too 🙂 And the year is different between the two dates.


Since there are only 365 days in a year, it would be very difficult to find a date that wasn’t already someone’s “something”… between holidays/anniversaries/work schedules/weather, etc.  That said, if you’re planning something that’s far enough in the future, it would be nice to not overlap certain things.  One thing that I think is nice is to get married on the anniversary of grandparents.

Post # 6
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

The way I see it, there are only 52 weekends in a year, so odds are – especially if you have a big family – the date you choose is going to be significant somehow to someone.  I think it would be very churlish of someone to get upset because you’re getting married on their birthday or anniversary.  Maybe unless it was a really big milestone birthday or anniversary – ok, maybe.  But personally, I wouldn’t take someone’s wedding as someone stealing my day.  It’s a birthday.  I’m pretty sure I’ll have another one next year.  I think your SO is being a bit nutty about this one.

(Tongue-in-cheek PS – The September 11th attacks happened on my birthday.  Now, THOSE are some a**holes who stole my special day.)

Post # 7
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i hear you OP, my SIL gave birth to her first son on my birthday – who does something like that, how rude!

note: tongue was firmly in cheek when i hit the submit button

Post # 8
968 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Should you be offended? Not at all.

I really don’t think it’s that big of a deal, and like a pp mentioned, it’s a special day you both share (for different reasons) and maybe it will help you to remember the date. 🙂

Post # 10
16196 posts
Honey Beekeeper

No way. Our wedding date fell on the day after my best friend’s birthday, so as Maid/Matron of Honor, she spent her birthday this year at my rehearsal dinner.

I apologized about the timing and made sure that she knew that I hadn’t forgotten about her. And that’s all it took. 🙂

Post # 11
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Nope not at all

Post # 12
2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012


Post # 13
9482 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

No, not at all.  Congratulations to your brother.

Post # 14
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My first wedding was on my husbands mothers birthday. His idea- he never forgot either

Post # 15
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

No way.  My friend is getting married on my birthday.  I don’t mind at all.

Post # 16
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Not at all! My friend’s wedding is the day after my birthday, and the only negative I see is that it will make it harder for her to attend a birthday dinner or something (in future years, obviously this one is out!), but it’s not that big of a deal.

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