Post # 1
Bees, I need advice on how to handle (or not handle) something with my Future Mother-In-Law. Whenever she addresses an envelope or package to my Fiance and I she addresses it as Mr. His Firstname His Lastname and Ms. My Firstname (no lastname). She’s definitely doing it on purpose because she’s hand written it multiple times. Is that weird? Or some sort of etiquette I’ve never heard of before? Not sure if I (or my FI) should say something or if I’m totally over thinking it!
Post # 3
do u think she has ultirior motives? if not, i think u should just let it go!
Post # 4
That would really bug me! I think that it is rude. Maybe get your Fiance to say jokingly “did you forget her last name?”
Post # 5
Sounds weird to me, lol . . . am I understanding this right? She writes your FI’s first and last name and then follows with your name only? I have never heard of that. Hmmm, don’t blame you for wondering. As far as should you say anything, I wouldn’t because it seems rather minor. But, of course if it really bugs you, yes, get your Fiance to ask his mom what is up with that?
Post # 6
i have a fsil who does that – but even worse she does Ms. Herfirstname Herlast name & mynickname – what?!? can you not remember how to spell my whole firstname? Am i only worth two letters? I don’t know, I tend to take things like that personally, but in the end, i have never said anything about it
Post # 7
I think it’s weird, but I don’t think it’s something to be offended over. She’s not getting anything out of not writing your last name on a package. It’s just a weird thing. If it bothers you that much, have your Fiance bring it up…but, don’t be offended. Life’s too short to get offended by the little things!
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
Sounds like she’s trying to be fancy, but she doesn’t know how to address things properly.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t think anything of it. Probably because my dad didn’t know my DH’s last name for the first 4 years of us dating, even though we’ve been friends since we were 13 and our parents are neighbors. LOL. I would just be pleased that your name was on it given how my Mother-In-Law is.
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I’ve gotten holiday cards for us at my house, addressed as MY-FIRST MY-LAST & HIS-FIRST. Sounds like it’s her way of letting you all know it’s for both of you- I wouldn’t take it personally.
Post # 12
I personally wouldnt care about something like this, it just seems really minor to me.
Post # 13
you all are probably right, it’s not really a big deal. I haven’t had any problems with her before so I doubt she means it in a bad way. I just thought it was sort of strange!
Post # 14
I think it’s weird, but I wouldn’t take it as an insult.
Post # 15
Are you sure she knows how to spell your last name? Or it could be possible that she thinks that’s the correct way to address things.
Post # 16
lol yes, i have a very simple last name! and Fiance and I have been dating for almost 9 years so if she forgot it then yikes…