Post # 16
WanderingPeace: if it bothers you that much anyone would not use the makeup artist you are supplying then maybe you should have asked for it to be mandatory!? (making things mandatory is never a good idea) so basically no. I think you are upset that she is spendingo n someone elses wedding and not yours… sorry but you can’t keep count like that – you will be one unhappy bride if that’s the case.
Post # 17
WanderingPeace: agree with the others, maybe she saw what the artist did and thought she could do just as good a job on her own. I doubt it’s because she doesn’t care how she looks in your pictures!
Post # 18
WanderingPeace: I’m not sure why you feel this is a reflection on you in any way? Maybe she didn’t like the experience of getting her makeup done by someone else or maybe she didn’t think it was worth the money. I was just in a wedding this weekend and my best friend (and fellow bridesmaid) did my makeup for the day and it turned out beyond gorgeous, so knowing that I think if we’re ever bridesmaids again I’m just going to have her do my makeup.
I made makeup optional for my girls and already a few said they’d rather skip it. Even those who have gotten it done in the past. They just don’t want to get it done for my wedding. It’s whatever.
Post # 19
WanderingPeace: Maybe she didn’t like her experience with a professional make up artist and thought it was an unneeded expense. Which is why she opted to not get it this time around.
Post # 20
This is not something to be upset over. Really, it has nothing to do with you – there are plenty of legit reasons why she might want to do her own makeup. Personally, I hate having others do my makeup – I think I do a much better job – and for my BFF’s wedding in May I paid a lot for my hair and hated it. I wish I would have just done something simple myself instead of wasting my money on an unflattering style that is now immortalized in my best friend’s wedding photos. Move on and focus on more important issues.
Post # 21
pixiecat: Mee too, Im also doing my own hair…what am I thinking?!
Seriously OP, I clicked on your post just to tell you that this is the definition of a non issue. Im sure you have lots of other, real wedding issues to worry about. Who cares?!
Post # 22
I wouldn’t be offended. Maybe she got her makeup done for the other wedding and didn’t think it was that great. If she has good makeup skills, she probably prefers to do it herself.
Post # 23
Don’t be offended. Maybe she thinks she can do a better job than the makeup artist. Or maybe she didn’t like the experience or Some just like to do their own makeup.
Post # 24
Why in the world would this offend you? Seriously, why even waste your time and energy being upset about this? These are moments in your life you will never get back, lol. Why waste them on this?
Post # 26
I don’t see the big deal, hardly something to get offended about. You said it is optional right? Maybe she didn’t like the way her make up turned out? I have never liked how my professional make up looked so I just do it myself now also.
Post # 27
Thank you, everyone, for your responses!
I think some of you read my post as being more upset than I actually am. In fact, I even wouldn’t go so far as to say I’m upset–just slight offended and more curious than anything. Two of my other Bridesmaid or Best Man said they’re not using my MUA either and I don’t feel anything about their responses–it’s just this one friend in particular. Plus, I usually prefer to do my own makeup, too.
Post # 28
- Wedding: December 2019 - City, State
WanderingPeace: See, I think the disconnect is that “offended” is usually a step beyond upset. What you’re describing now sounds more like annoyance. Being offended is more like, she called you a nasty name or said something racist or pooped on your lawn.
Post # 29
Ariadne: If I can edit the title of my post, it would be “Should I ask my friend why she is not using my makeup artist?” Still not a big deal that she’s opting out, but like I said, I’m just curious.
And yes, I am slightly annoyed. Offended is how I felt reading some of the responses on here.
I love bouncing my questions around the internet to see if others have experienced something similar and to gather advice. Some of the responders on here are just mean people while others have been very helpful.
Post # 30
No one has been mean. The fact that you are even using the word “offended” to describe this situation is an indication you are overreacting.