(Closed) Should I be offended that my friend is not using my makeup artist?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
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Sugar bee

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WanderingPeace:  People are just responding to what you put out there- not one person has said anything out of line.

You made a post asking if you “should be offended”, which generally sounds like you are a) upset and b) seeking validation. In this case, it’s over something fairly trivial so of course people are going to tell you it’s not a big deal. The way your OP reads, it sounds like you are mad that she spent money on the first girl’s wedding, but not yours. If that wasn’t your intention, you need to rethink how your post sounds- when you communicate in writing, people tend to take what you say at face value.

Post # 32
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah, I don’t think this is a big deal, at all, and I wouldn’t give it another thought and would not ask her why she isn’t using your MUA. I have pretty sensitive skin. I got my makeup done professionally for a friend’s wedding, and not only did I hate my makeup, but I had an allergic reaction to it! Needless to say, I will never use a professional MUA again. I did my own for my wedding and will do that at any wedding moving forward. So there are tons of reasons she might choose not to use your MUA. 

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Personally have never gotten my makeup done by an artist for a wedding because I’m very picky. I have had my face done for other events and I’ve never been happy with the results. 

Its certainly nothing to get offended or upset about. 

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Maybe she can’t afford it. Maybe she thinks why pay when I can do my own makeup? I don’t see why you should get offended by that or Why that would even bother you?

 

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 11 months ago by MissNC.
Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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WanderingPeace:  If people would stop looking for validation for their terrible ideas or whining about non issues I wouldn’t need to be abbraisive.  Some people need a reality check and I’m not going to sugar coat my responses.  

Post # 38
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I don’t know why you’d even bother asking??? You said it was optional and she gave you the information you asked for About numbers. It’s  not like on the day she was like “oh  I know we are squeezed for time but actually I do want it done!” She is paying for it and it’s optional. There could be numerous reasons why She doesn’t want it done. None of which have anything to do with you.

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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WanderingPeace:  Why does anyone do anything?  Because they feel like it.  There is no rule of the internet that only people who agree with the OP can respond, and all others must ignore it.  If I feel like posting a response I will, if I don’t I hit the back button. 

A similar question could be posed to you, if you have seen “judgemental comments” on other petty questions, why did you bother to post?  Or did you really not think your question was petty?

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

She probably just decided that it wasn’t worth the money for a MUA and/or she thinks she does a better job with her makeup and doesn’t want to trust anyone else.

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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WanderingPeace:  Not mad or angry, couldn’t be farther from it.  If the harsh comments have made you decide not to bring this concern up with your friend then all us abbraisive posters have done our job and an angel gets its wings.  Hurrah!

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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WanderingPeace:  Okay here is what you need to do: go to a comfy location, take a few deep breaths (count to 10 as you do each one) and then think about why this situation with your bridesmaid is bugging you so much. What is it really about? You mentioned having feelings of insecurity, and also worrying that your bridesmaid likes your other friend better than you. Be honest with yourself and ask yourself what important lesson this situation is trying to help you learn. This is actually a great opportunity to work on something within yourself that needs healing of some sort. Have gratitude to your friend for bringing you this lesson, then summon up as much love and kindness for her as you can and respond accordingly. Let it go and allow her to make her own choice.

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