(Closed) Should I be Offended?

posted 11 years ago in Parties
Post # 17
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2020

Ok, that is just crazy…are y’all doing the tasting menu at Per Se or something? I think it’s nuts that she planned such an expensive shower if she can’t pay for it herself. Do you have other maids that were supposed to help her with the cost? I’ve always heard that mothers are the last person that are supposed to host a shower for you. Now, I know that a lot of mothers host (pay) it behind the scenes, but to plan that (how did she spend that much?) expensive of a shower and then ask your mother to foot the whole bill is crazy. Maybe she was drunk! I’m proud of your mother for not hanging up on her. My mom would have laughed in her face and hung up.:) 


Also, whoever said that the guests is supposed to pay is wrong as well. That’s worse than asking her mom to pay. Yuck. You never invite somebody somewhere and then make them pay! 

Post # 18
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

rude. rude. rude!!!

Weddings bring out the quirks in people, that’s for sure. You need to have a heart to heart with your Maid/Matron of Honor and let her know what’s up. This will become very uncomfortable as events progress if you don’t.

Post # 19
24 posts

ugh, terrible…  i can only imagine what her credit card bills are like with that irrational spending…  don’t feel offended–i think she just is slightly clueless and will cringe someday when she realizes what she did is super tacky…  hope the shower was fun, though 🙂

Post # 20
278 posts
Helper bee

I agree with KateMW – I’ve never been to a shower where the guests had to pay. 

Post # 21
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008


  You shouldn’t be offended she didn’t consider paying- I don’t think it’s necessary for the Maid/Matron of Honor to host the shower anymore, however, 1400 dollars for 15 people is very excessive. It is a little distrubing she didn’t mind asking your mom to foot the bill. Your mother handled it well- agreed if she could host the event her way (probably a little more cost effective).

Post # 22
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My Maid/Matron of Honor and the bridesmaids all chipped in for my shower

Post # 23
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I certainly hope the guests eat $100 worth of food and don’t just nibble on their salad. 

I was the harpist for a good friend from high school’s wedding and since the gals planning it were also high school friends, I got invited to be part of the bachelorette party.  They found a way to be fancy and affordable.  We did the Four Seasons hotel in Philly’s restaurant/lounge, but they had some special chocolate dessert sampler thingy that we chose and at absolute most I think it was $40 a person (our cost + portion of bride’s cost). 

I’m so sorry that happened.  The whole thing just seems…..absolutely silly! 

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