Should I be this bothered about this?

posted 11 months ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - -

sassy411 :  Okay. I just know there have been times I successfully convinced friends and times I have not. I would offer a physical escape to my apartment. Maybe I would’ve also given her fuckin nanny cam bears.

Regardless, not everyone knows what the right thing or the safe thing to do is in a precarious situation like that. I said she was there for OP, because she always was there when something would happen. We don’t even know what she might have suggested to OP.

Post # 18
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1164 posts
Bumble bee

coffeebean4444 :  I’d definitely stop loaning money to people. Try to put away anything (even $20) a paycheck for emergencies. Some ways to save: eat PB&J sandwiches, ramen, and cereal for as many meals as you can. Shop at thrift stores for new clothes. Stop going out to eat. Make it a game to save as much as you can. These are all tactics I used as a poor college student. When I graduated, I was much better off than my peers. I saved enough money for an apartment down payment and to buy professional clothes for my first job. It sucks but sacrifices are worth it. One day you’ll be the one giving others financial advice. 

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Don’t loan money to anyone without expecting you might not get it returned!!! I’m sorry, but that’s how people are. If you can afford it, great, but you sound like you really can’t afford it. You need that money to survive. (I was once a very poor college student, so I feel your pain.) 

I just now read the part that she is willing to bring by the money to you. Let her bring it to you. It was a shitty thing for her to do, but it sounds like she is willing to apologize. 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

lesson learned: never let people borrow money, EVER. 

If you “give” someone money, that’s it. Do not plan on getting it back. 

OR only let people borrow money when you have extra and they will venmo you that day. Like ‘hey i dont have any cash, Ill venmo you later can you buy me a hotdog?”

Most people wouldn’t cry over losing hot dog money. 

But if that is a tough situation for you, money, then DO NOT under any circumstances let people borrow money. 

I learned this lesson when I was about 16 when I bought a ‘friend’ a pair of jeans. I had to chase her for weeks to the point of where I sent her a DEMAND LETTER. It was ridiculous. And she was all, ‘so sad to lose a friend over money’. Um no b*tch you said you would pay me back and you never f*cking did. So, bye b*tch. 

Thats why I have a ‘never let people ‘borrow’ money rule’. Period, end. 

 

Post # 21
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2055 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

avprobeauty :  I agree with you!! I never “loan” people money. I may give them some. I’ll say, “Sure I’ll buy that coffee for you, no need to pay me back.” Or, I’ll buy them lunch and say, “It’s on me. Consider it my treat.” People are so prone to “forget” to return things (jeans, money, movies, etc.). 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

lulubelle2017 :  Exactly. But if the same person gets a free ride from me two times, the third time im like ‘hey want me to order movie tickets, can you venmo me?’ and then wait for them to venmo me to buy them lol I hate mooches. 

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