Post # 1
I’m new to wedding bee, but enjoyed reading all your posts, and decided to throw this out there to you all……
The day of my shower, three friends (one was a bridesmaid) told me via TEXT that they weren’t going to be able to make it to my shower that evening. I was really hurt, as I felt I at least deserved a phone call. They had RSVP’d to the friend who was hosting, and didn’t even bother to call her and let her know they weren’t coming. My feelings are pretty hurt. Has this happened to any of you? How did you handle it?
Post # 3
Are your friends younger/havent been to many weddings? I think a lot of girls just don’t know how much time and effort and meaning they have. I would like to think that my girls would do better, but in all honesty they’re young and don’t know any better–so they probably wouldn’t.
I would just say, “Hey, thanks for letting me know but next time could you give me more warning and alert the host of the event? I know it seems like a hassle, but I feel bad knowing someone paid for more people to be there and you guys didn’t show. I just hope we can get together soon!” It’s a little blunt but sometimes you have to get the point across!
Post # 4
Thank for the post! I’m the young one of the group. They are quite experienced with this shower/wedding thing, while this whole thing has been a HUGE learning process for me (I’ve only been in one other wedding).
Post # 5
Oh wow, no excuses then! Well, that’s kind of rude. Did they have any sort of like emergency or anything?
Also, I might outline what I wanted my bridesmaids to do/be there for if I were in your shoes. Wedding events are important.
Post # 6
No reasons given…..thanks for the advice! I will be working on an outline asap 🙂
Post # 7
Wow. I was only ever in my sister’s wedding, and we had no prior experience. I’m the young one in the group as well and I find it really rude they did that! I’m sorry!
Post # 8
That happened to my friend only it was her WEDDING! Ugh some people are so flaky when it comes to wedding related events, so sad when we put all our time and efforts in!! I would tell them how it made you feel and how important it was, then maybe they’d think before doing things like this in the future…or you could just lose an ounce of respect for them 🙂
Post # 9
I don’t know if it would upset me about my friends, but the one who is a bm should be there! I had a couple of really really good friends miss my shower last minute but they had good excuses and made plans to meet up with me later since they couldn’t be there. However, it sounds like your friends aren’t even doing that, which seems really rude to me.
As far as the bm goes.. you might want to ask your other bm’s if there is something going on with her. Sometimes a bm will be totally acting funky about your wedding behind your back. One of my sister’s bm’s was acting really ucool and wouldn’t help or contribute at all. But sister didn’t know because we didn’t tell her in an effort to spare her feelings. She found out in the end and it did all work out, but maybe you need to have a few chats with your bms to see if something’s up.