(Closed) Am I materialistic? How do I bring up a new ring or do I drop it?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I can’t understand your post. I swear i tried. 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I know your upset but for the record it looks lovely on your finger from what I can see in the picture. However, I know personally this wouldn’t fly with me!! Did he mislead you an tell you it was real? 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it is understandable that you are disapointed. How is your relationship otherwise? Is he in a rough financial position? Did he explain why he bought you that ring? What did you talk to him about?

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I would NOT buy myself a ring and an $8.50 doesn’t say serious commitment between two grown folks to me. Seems like you’re setting yourself up for a lifetime of dissappointment

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

So he got you a ring, that’s not gold, that cost $8.50 on ebay, that was 5 sizes too big (a size TEN?? WTF??) and you are wondering what to do?

I’m just hoping he didn’t mislead you that it was real gold/diamond like another poster recetnly.

Well, regardless, you need to get a new ring, but he needs to take care of it. Don’t buy it yourself. Talk to him.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

From what I understand, you recently found out that the ring he bought you was $8.50 on ebay and you don’t like itl, but fear that buying a new one will make you (or make you appear) materialistic?

If we are on the same page, I think I’d be pissed if I were you.

That is not acceptable for an engagement ring, and I would tell him that. I wouldn’t feel bad about it either. You’ve spend a LOT of money on coming to see him, and he couldn’t even drop over $100 on an engagement ring?

I’d probably be questioning the entire relationship, to be honest. I know that’s probably not what you want to hear, but it’s all I have to offer….

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Wait, so FI intentionally tried to hide this from you? Or FI was lied to by an ebay dealer?

I’m not sure if I’m drunk and not interpreting this correctly, or if it is worded strangely. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I realize that the ring is about the promise behind it and not how much it costs but seriously, $8.50? I spent more than that on lunch today. It’s not like you are going for something extravagant either since you mentioned the ring you like is $100 on ebay. Does he intend the $8.50 ring to be a placeholder or something? Because it is not going to last very long.

I would be PISSED.

 

Post # 11
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504 posts
Busy bee

I know this is going to come out baaad. But if my fiance bought me a $8.50 ring, unless it was a joke or he had a reeeeally good excuse, he wouldn’t be my fiance anymore. If he can’t afford a real ring then maybe he cant afford to get married. By real, I dont mean expensive but geeze, put some thought into it.

I just want to say that next to my wedding band my most favorite ring is a $20 Cookie Lee ring my son bought me for Christmas. He was 8. Whenever I wear it, he looks at me with such pride.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

@the_future_mrs:  Maybe you just wish you were drunk. I know I do!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m with the other bee’s… I don’t understand your post. Can you re-word it a bit more clearly so we can help?

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You’re not being materialistic, and I do think you should bring it up to him. I’m not sure the best way to tactfully do it, though. I’m sure other bees will have some input.

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