(Closed) Should I be upset? FMIL wearing white to rehearsal

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 31
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Your Mother-In-Law is an adult and can wear what she wishes.  If it were your wedding, I would DEFINITEKY judge her as a guest, but its just the rehearsal dinner.  Also, no one will mistake her for the bride.  Believe me.

Post # 32
1574 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think it matters for a rehearsal dinner for heaven’s sake. Relax!

Post # 33
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

It wouldn’t bother me.

Post # 34
2148 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@MrsDrRose612:  You hit the nail on the head! Exactly how I feel. 

Post # 35
1291 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Personally, I would be pretty irritated. Sounds like she does want to steal the spotlight or there is some jealousy. Your responses make you the better person and your beauty will shine through anyone trying to steal your light.

Post # 36
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I really wouldn’t worry about it- it’s not the wedding. The last 3 rehearsal dinners I went to, none of the brides wore white.  

Post # 37
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would probably let it go – Atleast for the sake of no drama and no headaches for ME! ( In this case, you )- Your going to your dinner rehearsal, everyone will already know that your the bride even if she wore white, so whatever- theres no ” spotlight ” to steal because wearing white isnt whats going to make her a bride…

Post # 40
370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

She is trying to bait you on this one it seems.  White is fairly unflattering on most, so at least there is that?  It will likely be a source of comedy for your guests that she is doing this anyway.

Thinking more positive:  post a picture of your rehearsal dinner look, so we can see how lovely it is!

Post # 41
2861 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

No one is going to mistake her for a bride, for pete’s sake. It’s a rehersal dinner, not a wedding. Let it go because anything you could do will only make you look as ridiculous as her. 

Post # 42
5785 posts
Bee Keeper

Welll…I’ve never in my life heard that white is THE color for brides to wear for their bridal showers and even rehearsal dinners. Do some wear it? Of course, but the majority don’t, and don’t even think of it. Its such a nothing, I wouldn’t waste my time even trying to be insulted by it. It’s really not worth it.

Post # 43
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would be upset, not because people might think she was the bride, but because it’s just disrespectful. Many girls I know do an “all white weekend” and wear white for their bridal luncheon, rehearsal & wedding.

Post # 44
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yea, I would be annoyed. I know it is petty but it is annoying. It is easy for people who aren’t going through the same thing to be like “don’t worry about it!” but it is the worst when someone wears white when they know they shouldn’t. For example, my SISTER is wearing white to my rehearsal. She is in college so she should know better and I am pretty annoyed about it. Like seriously? Out of all the dresses you could have chosen, you chose a white one. So now we will both awkwardly be in white at the rehearsal.

She sent me a text with the dress and I didn’t receive the text until later. I told her I preferred another option, but she was like “ooooh, I already bought it. Maybe I can return it?” So clearly that dress is not being returned. I am not making a big deal about it because she will ultimately be the one that looks ridiculous when we both walk in wearing white. But it does grind my gears, especially because my parents hired a photographer. So in all of our pictures together we will both be in white dresses.

She also tried to wear a white dress to my bachelorette party. I just don’t think she gets it. No white. It isn’t that hard, people. Just let me have my little bride moment, lol.

Post # 46
48 posts

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@cwbrown85:  I think your sister DOES not what she’s doing and she knows she shouldn’t be doing it.  If I were the bride, I’m sure I’d be annoyed, too.  It appears that she is trying to steal your spotlight or, at the very least, get some attention.  Here’s what I would do….  Where a sash (like Miss America) that says, “I’m the Bride.”  That’ll make her stand out, for sure!  LOL

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