Post # 17
@elimel123: Thanks for your feedback about the shots! It really helps to hear that other people think they’re good–it makes me focus less on the not-so-good ones.
Also, really good feedback for future brides about finding a good fit with your photographer. I did get worried a bit when they didn’t want to use the suggested shoot list, but we only found out about this 2 weeks before the wedding. I guess it all comes down to asking the right questions up front!
Post # 18
A lot of photographers don’t use “must shoot” lists. I’m a photographer and I always ask brides if there are any specific details she really wants pictures of and I do my best to keep them in mind but the wedding day moves so fast it is not always possible to work from the list. Plus if the photographer is busy making sure she doesn’t miss any shots from the list, she might miss some other great moments because she is worried about the list. In my personal opinion I wouldn’t worry so much about a list of must haves, instead I’d focus more on whether or not the photographer is a talented storyteller with a good eye that you can trust.
Post # 19
@gardendahlia: Dude….. I’d be piiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiissssed. I am so so so so so unbelievably sorry. I mean, yay for the good photos, but damn. If you are shelling out a ton of money for this, they should take you more seriously. I am meeting with my photographer monday because HE insisted on sitting down with us in private to go through EVERY photograph, because he didn’t want to ditch something he didn’t like if we liked it. Basically fresh eyes. I’m curious who this was, and if the pro’s wife was really a photographer. Sheesh.
Post # 20
In some ways though I feel like the bride and grooms “Must Haves” are part of the ‘story’ they want to have at the end of their wedding- not the photographers. I feel like the head photographer should get those must haves and then the 2nd shooter should be ready to get those ‘other special moments. You do pay a lots to have your day and your story depicted at the end of it all!
Post # 21
What I was a bit upset about wasn’t particular shots that they missed, but the fact that they missed shots of some important people. The didn’t get one whole-body shot of the bride alone, only got two of me with my bridesmaids (one is blurry) even though we spent 30 minutes getting ready and toasting while the photographer was there, and only two of my husband’s parents and grandfather. They did capture the feel of the wedding really well, but I’m sad I didn’t get more shots with our families.
Post # 22
- Wedding: February 2013 - Colonial Country Club, Ft. Myers, FL
I am so sorry! I think you have every right to be upset! I don’t see why they wouldn’t follow your list. I mean, its your wedding and you’re paying them to take the pictures you want. And to assume that you wouldn’t have liked to see the extra 300 photos they erased is ridiculous.
When my sister got married, her photographer showed up 30 min late and as a result, we have ZERO professional pictures of anyone (including the entire bridal party and bride) coming down the aisle.
She took mainly candid shots and most were horrible to say the least. There was not one group shot taken of the family and the bridal party.
And to top it all off, she left 30 min early, but since she “fulfilled” her contractual obligation, there was nothing my sister could do!
Post # 23
Feeling upset and disappointed is completely natural so I wouldn’t be questioning that at all. With that said, I’m sorry that this happened to you. It sounds really frustrating! Hopefully you got enough shots to frame and create a small wedding album, also don’t hesitate to ask guests for photos because someone might have gotten some really great shots.
Since there’s nothing you can do about your own photos at this point, do you think “paying it forward” so to speak and helping other brides out might make you feel a little better? If so, make sure you type up reviews and post them on wedding websites and blogs. I’m not saying this has to be a crazy bash fest, but it might make you feel a little better to know you got it out there for other brides.
Post # 24
I don’t know if there’s any recourse you can take . . . but we all feel for you! It’s a shame that you’re even a little disappointed with something so important.
In happier news, you looked lovely.
Post # 25
@elimel123: The point I was trying to make is if you are hiring a professional, more than likely they don’t need to work off of a must shoot list because they again, they are a professional.
Post # 26
@kate169: I totally agree with you, though that’s part of the reason I’m so mad. Even with the “must shoot” list, they missed:
- A close up bridal portrait of me. I literally don’t have one close-up shot of myself looking at the camera
- A full-body shot of me in my dress. I have shots from the waist up, but nothing showing me alone in my dress from head to foot. I don’t think I’ve ever heard of a photographer missing this one!
- A single picture of me and my siblings alone, and they were among my attendants! Not one! They somehow even missed it in the group shots, and they were working off my list for that one (they did get one of us with my husband in it, but it’s not the same).
- Only two shots of me and my bridesmaids as a group, and one is the fuzzy one posted
It seems like these should be pretty standard shots, even if I hadn’t provided a must shoot list (which I did). I’m just wondering how a professional misses these, especially with 8 hours and a second shooter. I understand that the day is crazy, but come one. I spent more than 30 minutes in the room waiting for the ceremony with just my attendants and parents–how are there no group shots of me with them?
I don’t want to photographer bash–again, they NAILED a ton of candid shots that I think are actually harder to take than these simple portraits. I wish I’d have given them more direction day-of (though again, as professionals, I would have hoped they didn’t need it).
@daybyday: Thanks for the sympathy. I’m not really looking to take recourse, more to 1) vent, 2) to figure out if I had a even have right to be a bit angry and 3) whether I should let the photographer know.
You all have been so helpful–I now feel more justified in my feelings and have let the photographer know about my disappointment. I don’t think there’s anything that can be done (except a morning-after shoot, which I’m already doing with another photographer for the missing portraits) but thought it would be better to let them know rather them a mediocre review. Maybe it will help the next bride that uses them.
Post # 27
I think it’s completely resonable for you to be mad!! I would be so livid if this was what I got!!! @Candace From BC: Especially the shoe pic!! WTF?!
Post # 28
Final post–I heard back from them, and they were just mostly just defensive, suggesting that what they gave us is what we requested. They didn’t offer any sort of re-shoot option (which I would have declined anyway, but it would have been nice). Now that I’ve said my piece and wrote them an honest (mediocre) review, I’m ready to move on. Thanks again to everyone for letting me vent and sharing your thoughts.
Post # 29
@gardendahlia: we need to talk. Do you have facebook? i have your photographer and my engagement photos came out horrible! out of 50, i can only feel comfortable keeping 3 of them. There are pictures of us blurry, the close ups were of us talking, our eyes are closed, and we brought out dog with us and a few props to use for our save the dates…none of which i can use. Check out their blog for a picture of us. I asked them to send me better shots and they said they deleted all the photos to make room for other wedding sessions. Im completely on your side and i need to back out of the contract asap ($900 down the drain).