Post # 1
Backstory: I was married on August 31st of this year. I found my photographer through a girl I work with sort of late in the game (I was procrastinating on that front). The girl was getting married too and I asked her if she had one/new anyone good for recommendations. She recommended her photographer.
I looked at the photographer’s website, liked her style, contacted her and booked her. The booking was in June or July and I lucked out that she had my date blocked in her calendar initially because she normally contracts with a local fair.
She was great. She seemed great at the wedding and the pictures she showed me on her camera looked great. So all good, right?
Anyway, she told me it would be 4/6 weeks before the photos would be ready and asked if I wanted a facebook sneak peek. I said yes. I love photography and didn’t care who saw the pictures first. So far, nothing has been posted. I was fine with that. I know good work takes time.
Fast forward to last weekend, when the girl at work (the one who recommended her) has her wedding. I like her so I’m checking fb to see how everyone turned out. I see some that look nice. I’m happy for her. I check again later (and by later I mean, later the next day) and see the photographer has already posted some for her to see (and use). Now I’m not sure how I feel about it. I’m hurt that I haven’t seen any pro photos yet and my wedding was three weeks before hers.
Am I right to be upset? I’m trying not to be, but I’m just feeling bitter right now…
Post # 3
We’re talking about a Facebook preview, right? I don’t think you have a right to be upset. If you were married on August 31 then she still has enough time to deliver your images. Unless there was somewhere in your contract that stated you needed to have a Facebook preview, I would let this one go.
Post # 4
@Glados: I don’t think you are wrong to be upset and a little hurt. It might not be meant as a slight though. I would contact the photographer and just let her know you just wanted to check in and see how it was going and how super excited you are to get to see your sneak peek. As a photographer I can say that while good work does take time and you don’t want to rush her she should be able to carve out a couple hours to do up a couple sneak peeks for you because really they shouldn’t need to have THAT much editing done anyhow ( just my opinion). And it is wrong if she told you she was doing a sneak peek for you she should have taken the time to do your photos before starting on the next persons ( especially one that was 3 weeks later)
Post # 5
The photographer shouldn’t have promised you a preview if they couldn’t deliver that, although it may be as simple as they forgot – hard to say. But they are inside their 4/6 week delivery time so I don’t think you should be upset.
Post # 6
@Glados: I would just thank her for being such a pleasure to work with and that you can’t wait to take a peek at the photos Subtle and she will enjoy the compliment and likely give her that shove to say oh hey, I better get on a preview for the new Mrs. Glados!
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Glados: Maybe she failed to take note that you wanted a preview, or remembered incorrectly that you didn’t want a preview on Facebook! Just contact her and ask, it can’t hurt!
Post # 8
@Glados: i think being ‘hurt’ is a bit much, it is a business arrangement, but i can see how that might irk me a bit too if my photographer did a later wedding before mine.
but, technically, it has only been 3 weeks and she is well within her delivery time. if she hasn’t posted by this weekend you can always email her and say, “hey, i’m SO excited to see your awesome work for our wedding! can’t wait to see my facebook preview!” or something super friendly like that. technically if its not in the contract she doesn’t have to provide it, but if she said she would she probably should. 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
I can understand why you would be inclined to be upset, but try to stay calm.
You can always ask her about it. 🙂
Post # 10
It is weird that she posted them out of order. I always go in order because a lot of what I post online for clients has their wedding date and I know it would cause upset ( like this situation ) if someone saw theirs out of order.
Post # 11
Maybe just send a quick note ” Hi ! I loved ( friends ) pictures ! I can’t wait to ours. Do you know when they will be posted ? “
Post # 12
I can see why you’d be annoyed but I’m sure it’s just an oversight. I agree with emailing your photog a very gentle reminder that you’re super excited to see your sneak peek. But definitely not worth getting upset over.
Post # 14
Well, now it’s been 11 weeks. I haven’t heard from the photographer. I sent her short nicely- worded message on facebook asking when she will be able to show me the photos. Ugh, waiting is hard. This is also past the time she put in her contract. I need to re-read the contract again and see if there’s something she’s supposed to give me back…
Post # 15
@Glados: I think you can feel a little bugged, but I wouldn’t be upset enough to say anything to her about it.. Just enough to complain about it haha
ETA: if shes past contract at this point thats NOT okay.
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Yeah if she is past her contracted time now, you are allowed to be upset. If you just sent her a message I would wait a few days to give her time to respond, though. Be cordial and not “attacking” so that she doesn’t end up getting defensive, but do let her know that you’re getting concerned because it’s over the stated amount of time listed in the contract.