(Closed) Should I be upset?

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 3
1084 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I wouldn’t be too concerned about them wanting the pictures.  I know it gets hard if you had something you were planning on doing and now feel like they’re stepping on your toes.  But it would probably be best addressed just to say oh, I already started the cards, instead of being passive aggressive and not giving them the pictures (I wouldn’t understand why you were  being possessive of the pictures either).  The name calling is harsh though.

Post # 4
120 posts
Blushing bee

Oh my goodness! I am so sorry that you are having to go through this! First of all, no one asked him to foot the entire bill. I think that is why my fiance and I have decided to pay for the entire wedding ourselves. We will have the wedding the way that we want it, so no one is upset about anything, and if they take it upon themselves to contribute, then that is on them. Even if my Mother were footing the entire bill, she knows how independant I am, and I will still want it my way. I am not a bridezilla, but at the same time, I have style, and I know what I like.


As for the way they reacted when you just wouldn’t hand over your pictures, they had no right in treating you that way. And the swear words they used were way, way, WAY out of line. What did your husband say to all of this? This greatly upsets me. I don’t like anyone to be abused by their new family, in which I am sure you are feeling even more uncomfortable about being around them now. This is supposed to be the happiest time of your life, only to get thrown right back in your face, and it is complete and total BS on their part.


I hope that I am not making matters worse, but that makes me vehement! Girl, just hold your head high, and don’t let them get you down. What is important is you are married, you are with a man that loves you, and screw the rest. Don’t let them get you down, you don’t need that kind of energy ruining your life.


Smile!  Laughing

Post # 5
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Well, as much as their attitude totally sucks, if they paid for the photography, you have to give them a copy of the photos. The fact that they want to crop stuff out and all that is very rude, but you really don’t have any control over what they do. It sucks that they are pulling the “we paid, we gave you this” card, but unfortunately that is a risk you run with having people contribute to the wedding. You need to get your husband in check, though. He should not be calling you names like that no matter what the circumstance.

As far as Christmas dinner goes, as much as it sucks I think for the sake of trying to smooth things over with the family and ultimately get along with each other, you may need to suck it up and fake some Christmas cheer.

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