Post # 1
My fiance has never been into weddings. We always leave receptions early, and the whole idea of decorating and DIY projects is beyond his comprehension. Usually this isn’t a big deal to me. He wants me to plan everything because he feels it is my day and he just wants me to be happy…BUT. We have been engaged for a year now. The city I live in is really big on bridal shows where you can get incredibly good deals on vendors in the area. I’ve been chomping at the bit to get to one of these babys but I have always had something come up. I just recently heard an ad for the biggest one of the year held at the coliseum and I really wanted to go. My mother is not very involved in the wedding, and my maid of honor is a workaholic so she won’t be able to make it. My fiance however has the whole day off and is refusing to go.
Should I be worried about his lack of interest. I know the bridal spectacular is not a man’s idea of fun, but he hasn’t done ANYTHING for this wedding in the past year. Our relationship is wonderful, but this wedding feels awful lonely to me.
Post # 3
I think you should talk to HIM about your concerns. You’re a couple, a unit. Tell him how much it would mean to you if he’d participate, at least a little bit, in the wedding planning process, to ensure it’s a day for both of you.
Post # 4
I think a bridal show would be overwhelm for my normally very sweet and progressive fiance. I would think that a guy who won’t even do little stuff would probably be extra hesitant about a bridal show!
How about a compromise? Let him know how much you’d love for him to attend the bridal show- but give him a Get Out of Jail Free card, asking him if he’d be willing to break it up into a few other wedding-related activities instead.
Post # 5
My fiance has been good about helping with wedding planning, but he would never go to a bridal show, even if I bribed him. Never Ever especially not the biggest one of the year. You should really let him know that you want him to help out even if it is heading up a few small things or a couple of big things. I wouldn’t hold it against him if he doesn’t want to go to the expo but he needs to know you would like him to participate in some planning. i like theartofliving’s response compromise it!