- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
The short version:
I haven’t talked much to a pretty good friend from college in the past few years. I just don’t think she makes an effort to talk to me on the rare occasions I’ve seen her. She was invited to my e-party which occured a few weeks ago, but didn’t make any response like “oh sorry we can’t make it, I’ve got xyz…” I don’t think anything happened which you could consider a “falling out,” so I’m not sure why she’s gone all “non-responsive.” I guess in terms of etiquette I should invite her to the wedding, and it’s even fine with space and money considerations, but honestly, I’m just worried that she’ll get the invitation to the wedding and be like, “really? that’s weird. I can’t believe she has so few friends that she’s inviting me.” or something like that.
Should I care about what she thinks upon receiving the invitation?
A few more details:
We were good friends in college, even living together our last year and going on a couple trips together, one even just the two of us to visit a third friend in Mexico right after college! Then she moved to another city, so I didn’t think much about our not communicating much. I think maybe once or twice after college I called her to chat or hang out and never really received much response. She got married shortly after college (and invited me), and I can assume she got busy with work and married life also. But then she moved back to my city and I still haven’t seen much of her or heard from her! I had her invited to the e-party even though I was unsure, since we had been close in college, for old times’ sake. But then after still receiving no response, I’m just starting to wonder if she really doesn’t consider me even remotely important in her life anymore. Which honestly makes me kind of embarrassed to send her invitation, cuz, well, clearly since we’re not exactly close friends I wouldn’t put her in that category…but for our fun past together! Shoud I care what she thinks? And would you ever think someone was weird for sending you an invitation when you hardly considered yourself close to them? (I especially don’t want her to think I’m just inviting her for another gift!)