Post # 1
I’m reading everyone’s posts about all the stress and planning and it’s making me worried that I’m not worried. I’m not “officially” engaged yet (long story but we are for sure getting married he just hasn’t proposed yet). We’re planning for an August or September wedding (about a 6 month engagement) and I feel like I already know what I want. I already bought my dress, we’re close to our pastor so the officiant is taken care of, bc we’re both well known in several churches we will have no problem getting a venue (for free), a friend is a professional photographer, another friend is a cake decorator, etc etc. Basically because we both know so many people through church (really churches…both sets of parents pastor different churches than we go to but we often travel to other churches for events) it’s easy because of connections.
The only thing I’m worried about is the “long story” which involves some family drama but otherwise I feel like all the planning is pretty much easy.
Why am I not stressed and what must I be doing wrong if I’m not stressed?!
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
YOu’re not doing anything wrong! You’re in good shape. Not everyone stresses out, I’m sure. WE just tend to hear about it when people DO! Enjoy it!
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
Wedding planning ain’t a stress rehearsal for my Fiance and myself either!
I’m dealing with losing family members though; my guest drama is mostly dwindling numbers due to possible deaths before the wedding (cancer) or guests couldn’t come because they have to get married themselves. Lost my dad to heart attack. Different kind of dynamic. It’s more real and less of a bride’s fantasy.
At this point, I’m ready to party and celebrate what’s left of our families. I don’t care if the bouquet is pretty; etc etc. Just as long as my family and closest friends are there.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
@nestle: your not doing anything wrong!!
i wasnt stressed at all during the planning of our wedding – i loved every second of it and i think being relaxed and stress free helped that.
sounds like your in for a peaceful planning ride – enjoy it – it all speeds by so quick!x
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
That’s great! No reason to be stressed.
I will say, when you’re down to the wire and trying to wrangle all the last minute details, that’s when the stress often kicks in. Not really 6 months out, in my experience….
Post # 7
@nestle: Enjoy it! I stressed right away because I was being too picky, and then all of a sudden I just let everything go, and I was so mellow. Even the day of everyone was like, “Why aren’t you more nervous!” I didn’t get nervous until I had to walk down the aisle and that was only because I had to sing soon after (my legs were also sweating and shaking and I was wearing heels, lol).
Post # 8
Thanks gals! I’m just going to enjoy not being stressed. If I get everything done thats easy then if something does come up it won’t be that bad to struggle with (I don’t like stress so I’m a big plan ahead even for emergencies type person)
Post # 9
@nestle: You know what? I wonder the same thing! I’m like, “shouldn’t I care more about the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses or is it a sign I’m not into my man, the wedding, our marriage, etc?”
Abandon your inner-woman and don’t over analyze! Sounds like you’ve got no reasons to stress.
For me, I realized that they are just purple dresses and the fact that I didn’t agonize over any of it just means it’s not that big a deal to me.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
@nestle: It sounds like you have a lot taken care of, so that’s probably why you aren’t stressed. 🙂
I think the stress comes when you get closer.
When things go wrong, that also causes stress. Doesn’t sound like you have had that happen.
Also, family and bridal party are a huge part of the stress.
Also, if you are wanting to have drinks and dancing, make sure your church is cool with that. I know a whole lot of churches do NOT allow one or both of those.
Post # 10
I’m so glad you aren’t stressed. 🙂 And congrats in advance… 😉
I actually just wrote a post on this very topic, and when I published it, this thread came up! Read it if you want.
Stay stress-free. Society tells you to be stressed, make a million crazy decisions that NO ONE ELSE will care about, etc. It’s the economy of weddings. A wedding is a celebration of the BEGINNING of a MARRIAGE. Simple as that. There are certain details that are no-brainers because they involve the logistics of actually accomodating the people you want to see you make your vows (like making sure there are chairs in the venue…lol). But the rest? Not worth your stress. 🙂