- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
I was having doubts about inviting her in the first place, and really only invited her because I did not want to hurt her feelings. She and another one of my bridesmaids had a falling out years ago, and I was still friends with the both of them. I was not close to her anymore but still considered her a close friend. It first started when I asked her to go join me to try on wedding dresses. Ten minutes before i was about to do something every girl dreams of, trying on wedding dresses, she calls me crying that she cant make it cause she had to study. Then she turned it into she did not have any money and was looking for a place to live. I told her that she did not have to be in the wedding and would not take it personally. She said she still wanted to be in it. It honestly changed my mood when I was about to try on dresses!!! I could not stop thinking about how i made the wrong decision. I called her the next week, telling her that maybe it was not the best idea for her to be in my wedding and she could come as a guest. She made a comment about being competitive with one of the other girls in the wedding, and so she wanted to be in it. That just pissed me off. The next time and second time I asked all my bridemaids to get together was for their bridesmaid dresses. We went and tried on a few dresses, and some girls drove 3 hours to get there! She showed up after the appointment was over, and when we were all done. She still tried on dresses, but she was an hour and half late. The last straw was my bachelorette party. She was texting me how excited she was, and then second day in, she called me early in the morning to tell me she was sick, when the night before, the reason she was not there was because it was too late to come. I was upset. And more importantly, i was worried she would not show up to my wedding, or do something that would cause me to be thinking about her on my special day. After talking to her and telling her its best she is not in my wedding, and that it stresses me out that she would not show up on my wedding day, she texted me basically some mean stuff and that she would not be coming to the wedding and have a nice life. I was totally and am still crushed. I never wanted not to be her friend, I just felt I would worry until and on my weddiing day that she would come up with some reason why she could not make it. I feel terrible, but really never meant to hurt her. Am I a bad person?