(Closed) Should I bother inviting my dad to my wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


You’ve got quite a dilemma there.

I would probably say to invite him, since it’s a family affair. After all, he is your father. It sounds like he may not even make an effort to speak to you anyway, so it doesn’t seem like it would be very hard to ignore him. He might at least be able to talk to his mother and brother, if no one else.

On the other hand, you shouldn’t have to invite anyone you don’t want to. But if you don’t want to damage the relationship more from your side, I would just invite him.


Post # 4
2780 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Invite who you want to your wedding. But not inviting your father may cause unnecessary drama within your family. Plus you can’t be certain you won’t ever regret the decision to not invite him, he is your father.

Post # 5
8437 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Just because you’re related by blood doesn’t mean you actually have a relationship.  I would probably still invite your dad, but I wouldn’t do anything that would indicate you had a relationship with him (i.e. walking you down the aisle, having him in your wedding party, father-daughter dance, etc).  Good luck no matter what you decide on doing.

Post # 6
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Even if a child is “an owner” of a business at the age of 14, it is irresponsible to have them working that much. How could you possibly complete your schoolwork?  What is this family business that has you working so much both in the past and again now?  I would do whatever I had to do in order to get out of your family business, go back to school and get a degree or whatever you need to do, and don’t bother inviting him. He is essentially a sperm donor (just like my father, I know how it feels). A father provides emotional, financial, loving support- he should not be a slave driver.  If you don’t even want to sit through dinner with him- NOT that I blame you- why would you want to deal with even making eye contact with him at your reception? Fill the seat with someone who supports you, loves you, and is interested in being a part of your life.

Post # 7
407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I say invite him. 1. You see him at work and it’s bearable. 2. The reception will be full of people (I”m assuming). Based on what you said, I highly doubt your dad is going to go out of his way to talk to you, or anybody else for that matter. Other than seeing him, your interaction with him should be quite limited and with everything else that will be going on, your attention won’t be focused on him, what he’s doing, or what he’s saying. 3. He’ll probably leave early.

By your choice you have a relationship with him, even if it’s just working in his business. There’s no use in causing unnecessary drama in that relationship by slighting him. If you want to make him aware of how much he’s hurt you, write him a letter after the wedding. Don’t use your wedding to do it.


Post # 8
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t speak to my dad and I didn’t invite him to my wedding, but I have no ties to him whatsoever….no family, job anything. If I worked for my dad’s company and I was inviting his mom and brother, I would probably invite him because I feel like it would make my life easier. Sorry you’re stuck in a tough situation!

Post # 9
1524 posts
Bumble bee

I think if you can be okay with having him there, you should at least offer him a reception invite. It seems like there’s a good chance he’d decline anyway.

Post # 11
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Talk about a rock and a hard place.  I wish I could give you some bit of wisdom to help you decide but I have no idea.

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