Post # 1
I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and I still love him but I don’t and can’t trust him anymore. He has done things to break that trust (things he’s never actually taken the responsibility for – which makes things worse). I have tried to rebuild the trust within me and i’ve suppressed the gut feeling that something may be wrong, just in case it’s my insecurities.
I trusted him in the beginning but he just did thing after thing which broke the trust on my end, because I was a lot less mature at those times, I did things in return to hurt him because he hurt me – and that broke the trust on his end, I suppose.
But I just feel like it’s hopeless, and if I ever ask him a question that has an accusatory tone to it (because I find it weird), he’s quick to anger and this lack of transparency isn’t helping me trust him more.
Latest thing was having condoms in his wallet, we’ve used condoms maybe 4 times in almost 2 years and solely for “special” uses, and he’s never kept them in his wallet, considering we never have sex “on the go.” I asked about it and he was quick to anger and gave a “I bought them for us, and I opened them, idk why i did, so that’s why I put two in my wallet and the other in the drawer” explanation… which is kind of hard to believe.
Anyway, break things off or try to regain the trust?
Post # 2
Do you really have to ask?
Post # 3
I would (and have), for either of those reasons (quick temper, lack of trust) much less both.
Post # 4
Gianna2 : What things has he done, what things did you do in return?
This all sounds so immature.
Post # 5
Yes, because this relationship is not healthy (reference: previous post about social media).
Post # 6
The reality is that whenever someone asks if they should break up with someone, the answer is virtually always yes. Here’s the reason: you have thought about it enough to consider it, and you’re looking for external validation of your own feelings. You KNOW it isn’t a healthy situation, but you don’t want to have to “blame” yourself for the breakup.
All that aside, yes. You should break up with him.
Post # 7
Do you mind if I ask, how old are you? Because that lie has got to be the CLEAR sign
Post # 8
Your entire relationship is immature. Time to move on.
Post # 9
Doesn’t seem like there’s any trust between the two of you, and for good reason. So I voted for ‘yes’.
Post # 10
it doesn’t matter what happened or didn’t, if you have any doubts; RUN!
Post # 11
It sounds like you already know what you need to do.
Post # 12
. . I don’t and can’t trust him.
The real issue here, Bee, is what keeps you in a relationship with a guy you can’t trust?
Post # 13
Gianna2 : Break up with him bee. You deserve better.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
Why do you want to continue a relationship with someone you cant trust? How do you expect to ever build a life that you feel happy in when you cant ask a legitimate question without it blowing up into a fight? This relationship sounds like a colossal waste of your time bee.
Post # 15
As I said in a comment on your previous post, this man is emotionally unavailable.
Believe me when I tell you that this is ALL the reason you will ever need to break up with him.
It does not matter a jot how much you love him – if he is emotionally unavailable, you are in for a miserable relationship.
(I won’t comment at this stage on your issues – which I also think are real and need work.)
But yes, absolutely and without hesitation, you should break up with him.