- 8 years ago
I’m pretty sure I’m switching phases right now in the waiting cycle…lol. The Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been really looking into wedding venues and ideas, guest lists etc….and its really starting to bother me but I feel like we talk about it too much. (Example: Me saying I feel silly talking and planning so much and him telling me its not silly and that he knows its going to happen so he doesn’t mind talking, planning, etc.)
So….Here is my issue. Planning all of this is making me feel expectant and I know we have a lot of trips coming up (I’ll explain the magnitude in a moment), plus the holidays and I really dont think he is planning to propose at any of those, although he hasnt come out and said it. I wish he would, but he said that gives it away. I think he may be waiting for our vacation to Ireland that is scheduled for April. We havent booked it yet, but he has really been getting into the details of planning it. Also, many times when we have brought up proposals we talk about Ireland next….which to me is making it a bit obvious but maybe he doesnt realize hes doing it?
I really want to say something about it though, because if he is seriously going to wait 7 months to ask me to marry him and we are already making a “sorta kinda guest list” and everthing else we talk about I think I will go nuts! Here is a list of the things we have planned….just so you get a better picture….
10/10- Concert out of town
10/23- Out of town to a log cabin with his Dad and step mom.
11/14- Opera show (special date)
11/26- Florida for 4 days (football games, parks etc)
12/8- Leave with his dad and step mom again to see a concert and then go to the Biltmore Estate for 3 days to see the Christmas decor. (very romantic, but highly unlikely for the proposal due to his brother proposing to his finace there)
12/17- DC for the weekend to see the Christman stuff
NEW YEARS EVE
1/1 His brother and finaces wedding day (Cant steal their thunder, so it wont be here either)
And who knows what else we will plan between now and then….we are always on the go and plan trips all the time. I really think his brother getting married may also be a reason why he wouldnt want to officially get engaged before their wedding (even though he talks to him about it all the time and asked him about his guest list so we would have a good number for ours-so its not like he doesnt know) And then there is Ireland in April….But if we make it that far out through all of the things we will do together and we leave to go to Ireland…Im going to KNOW hes doing it then (I’m hoping he will realize this and not try to do it then) I think it would be amazing and beautiful in Ireland for him to propose, we will be staying in castles and doing so many romantic things. But I hate thinking of the wait and that I will know by then if he hasnt asked yet.
So that is where my question to all my lovely bee’s comes in! Do I discuss this with him? Ask for a time line for the proposal? (we have talked about Oct as a wedding time frame) I dont want to make this “business” like. But its really hard, as i’m sure many of you know! I would love any advice…if im being silly and getting too worked up, its always great to have someone talk you down so you dont go blurting out things you shouldnt to your SO!! lol.