(Closed) Should I bring up marriage again or just keep waiting?

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 31
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1305 posts
Bumble bee

Well, you decided marriage was important, and rather than stand up for yourself, you let him put you off for an entire year. Now he is basically telling you he has no interest in marrying you, and you are sticking around because….?

Post # 33
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1305 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sorry for your terrible year, that sounds awful. I still don’t think this guy plans on ever marrying you. Things like that make couples with strong relationships come together to support and strengthen each other. If he doesn’t know if he wants to marry you after going through that, I doubt he will ever know.

Post # 34
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1268 posts
Bumble bee

doberman:  

You need to calm down. You know a total of a few paragraphs about this person’s life, so stop with the rudeness and your ‘holier than thou’ attitude.

Life is far more complicated than that.  

Post # 36
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50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I watched my mom waste 15 years with A guy who never intended on marrying her. She treated him like a king and apparently that wasn’t enough. He proposed to her after 7 years but only because my family gave him hell. Anyways, she wasted all her youth on a guy who only saw her as an option. Fast forward a year after they broke up and he married a woman he knew for 6 months. Point of the story is, don’t settle and waste your time. 

Post # 37
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415 posts
Helper bee

purpleviolet:  You’re not waiting. You’re allowing all of this. Just don’t allow it. Put your foot down. Either he’s on the same page with you or he’s not. Do you want to be posting about this 10 years from now? Light a fire under his rear end…

Post # 38
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87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

purpleviolet:  Sounds like you’ll need to take the initiative here as after 10 years and a kid, if he wanted to propose, he would have. I can understand wanting to wait until you can afford a nice wedding, but you have a child now, so that kind of changes the priorities. I DON’T think you’ve made a stupid choice. You obvious love him and you have a beautiful daughter together.

Just curious, why does your daughter have his last name and not yours? 

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

purpleviolet:  good to hear, glad you worked it out. 

I was going to say if he wants a holiday it can be for your honeymoon or he can shove it! 🙊

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