(Closed) Should I call off the wedding now??? (long,sorry)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Hugs to you!  I understand that you don’t want to be a bald bride, but you need to go for your treatment.  I am sure that wigs suck, but I would keep planning and go the wig route. 

My best wishes to you!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I say you need to discuss this with your Fiance before calling anything off.    I agree with LacrosseBride, go for the wig if you need to.  I’ve never dealt with such an issue, but I can’t imagine your Fiance would want to cancel the wedding.  Good luck!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Awh, sweetheart, I am so sorry.  Please stay strong! 

Honestly, I know it’s so much easier said than done, but I wouldn’t focus on having no hair on your wedding day.  You will radiate beauty with or without hair because you will be glowing with happiness.  Hair isn’t what makes us beautiful- I firmly believe it’s our smile and personality that makes us beautiful.  I can guarantee guests won’t notice your wig- they’ll notice your gorgeous gown, your radiant smile, and the apparent love between you and your Fiance. 

I wish you nothing but all the best =)

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Honey you HAVE to go to your chemo treatment! Weddings are important, but the rest of your life with the many you love is WAY more important! Tell your FH and decide if you want to proceed with the wedding now or postpone, but def get your treatment.

And I agree, you will be a beautiful bride with your own hair, no hair, or a wig. Good luck and hugs to you!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

(Hugs and prayers).  I’m so sorry.  Good luck to you  and get healthy soon.

Well how long will treatment last?  How much time do you have before you really need to decide to cancel without incurring any (more) penalties than if you cancelled today?

First talk to your Fiance.  You need to at least get that off your chest.

Then, I think you need to talk to your vendors about your options.  If you postponed, as opposed to cancel, would you lose money?  HOw long do you have?  Make the decision after you have the info you need.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Chemo is a no-brainer. You MUST go. You also really need to talk to your fiance about this. There are some deeper issue here then just being a “bald bride”. You need the support, and he is there for you. Rely on him right now, and trust him and yourself for that matter. I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this. I don’t know you, but I wish I could give you a hug and tell you everything will be alright.

As for worrying about the hair issue… that’s what really amazing wigs are for!! They make amazing one’s now that look like your real hair!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My cousin is currently going through chemo and found an awesome wig to wear at her wedding; she was amazed that it looks even better than her hair did before she started treatment! The crazy thing is she found it at a thrift store for $10! 🙂

Anyways, you HAVE to go through with your chemo; you know it’s what you need to do and what your FH would want you to do. 

If you postpone the wedding, only do so because you aren’t feeling up to it, not because you’re worried about how you will look. There’s no doubt in my mind you’ll be a gorgeous bride. You need to be honest with your FH. 

Message me if you ever need to talk! Best wishes to you!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If your Fiance has stuck with you through the whole ordeal, he’ll want to stand by you now, too.  Go ahead with the wedding.  🙂 And good luck to you!!!  

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

((((((((((hugs))))))))))))

I say get married!

Post # 12
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2790 posts
Sugar bee

{{{{HUGS}}}}

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

I say what better reason to HAVE a wedding so that you can have some pure happiness and a celebration during a difficult time!  You deserve to have a beautiful day all about you and your love for each other now more than ever.  Get that chemo and get a bangin’ wig, you’ll look gorgeous!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

(((((HUGS))))) Talk to your Fiance and see what he wants to do. If I were you, I would go through with it. Like PP have said, you will look gorgeous on your wedding day and you deserve to be happy. Sometimes a day of celebration and love can take away from the suckfest that is chemo. A lot of my family and friends have gone through chemo and I always focus on what I can do to show my support and love because that is all I have to offer. If you are planning on wearing a veil with your dress, why not gether some friends, grab the vieil and go and try on some hair pieces to see how it looks?

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

hugs to you!  don’t carry this burden alone- let your friends and family in and share what’s going on.  i don’t know how comfy you are with this idea, but what about not even using a wig?  natalie portman rocked the bald look, and it might be more physically comfortable.  also, those who love you will love you and support you no matter what, and you may look gorgeous with your natural look.  also, i don’t know a ton about chemo, but does your hair fall out right away?  your wedding is relatively soon- maybe you won’t have this issue by then? or maybe you can push the wedding up?  either way, the hive is here to support you!

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