Post # 1
I have looked around on here for awhile but haven’t posted before. I’m trying to get some opions from you guys cause I’m very frustrated right now and don’t know who to share this…
2 years ago, I found out I had AML (Acute lymphoblastic leukemia) and went through radiation and rounds of chemo. 6 months ago, I had an allogeneic bone marrow transplant that put me into remission. I still have GVHD, but that’s a fair price to be alive. My Fiance was going through the whole ordeal with me and very supportive. After I got well, we decided to move on and get married. We proceeded to pick a date, put deposits down on the venue, church,photographer, videographer,etc… I also went ahead and order my wedding gown. However, I went for a annual checkup 2 weeks ago, and my blood test came out abnormal, I went for a bone marrow biopsy after that. So yesterday I got a call from my doctor telling me that I just relapsed :(. I don’t know what to do guys…I haven’t told my Fiance yet, I feel like all my dreams just crashed. I don’t know if I should cancel the whole wedding thing and go with my chemo treatment which is scheduled on Monday.I don’t want to be a bald bride 🙁
Post # 3
Hugs to you! I understand that you don’t want to be a bald bride, but you need to go for your treatment. I am sure that wigs suck, but I would keep planning and go the wig route.
My best wishes to you!
Post # 4
I say you need to discuss this with your Fiance before calling anything off. I agree with LacrosseBride, go for the wig if you need to. I’ve never dealt with such an issue, but I can’t imagine your Fiance would want to cancel the wedding. Good luck!
Post # 5
Awh, sweetheart, I am so sorry. Please stay strong!
Honestly, I know it’s so much easier said than done, but I wouldn’t focus on having no hair on your wedding day. You will radiate beauty with or without hair because you will be glowing with happiness. Hair isn’t what makes us beautiful- I firmly believe it’s our smile and personality that makes us beautiful. I can guarantee guests won’t notice your wig- they’ll notice your gorgeous gown, your radiant smile, and the apparent love between you and your Fiance.
I wish you nothing but all the best =)
Post # 6
Honey you HAVE to go to your chemo treatment! Weddings are important, but the rest of your life with the many you love is WAY more important! Tell your FH and decide if you want to proceed with the wedding now or postpone, but def get your treatment.
And I agree, you will be a beautiful bride with your own hair, no hair, or a wig. Good luck and hugs to you!
Post # 7
(Hugs and prayers). I’m so sorry. Good luck to you and get healthy soon.
Well how long will treatment last? How much time do you have before you really need to decide to cancel without incurring any (more) penalties than if you cancelled today?
First talk to your Fiance. You need to at least get that off your chest.
Then, I think you need to talk to your vendors about your options. If you postponed, as opposed to cancel, would you lose money? HOw long do you have? Make the decision after you have the info you need.
Post # 8
Chemo is a no-brainer. You MUST go. You also really need to talk to your fiance about this. There are some deeper issue here then just being a “bald bride”. You need the support, and he is there for you. Rely on him right now, and trust him and yourself for that matter. I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this. I don’t know you, but I wish I could give you a hug and tell you everything will be alright.
As for worrying about the hair issue… that’s what really amazing wigs are for!! They make amazing one’s now that look like your real hair!
Post # 9
My cousin is currently going through chemo and found an awesome wig to wear at her wedding; she was amazed that it looks even better than her hair did before she started treatment! The crazy thing is she found it at a thrift store for $10! 🙂
Anyways, you HAVE to go through with your chemo; you know it’s what you need to do and what your FH would want you to do.
If you postpone the wedding, only do so because you aren’t feeling up to it, not because you’re worried about how you will look. There’s no doubt in my mind you’ll be a gorgeous bride. You need to be honest with your FH.
Message me if you ever need to talk! Best wishes to you!
Post # 10
If your Fiance has stuck with you through the whole ordeal, he’ll want to stand by you now, too. Go ahead with the wedding. 🙂 And good luck to you!!!
Post # 11
I say get married!
Post # 13
I say what better reason to HAVE a wedding so that you can have some pure happiness and a celebration during a difficult time! You deserve to have a beautiful day all about you and your love for each other now more than ever. Get that chemo and get a bangin’ wig, you’ll look gorgeous!
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Post # 15
(((((HUGS))))) Talk to your Fiance and see what he wants to do. If I were you, I would go through with it. Like PP have said, you will look gorgeous on your wedding day and you deserve to be happy. Sometimes a day of celebration and love can take away from the suckfest that is chemo. A lot of my family and friends have gone through chemo and I always focus on what I can do to show my support and love because that is all I have to offer. If you are planning on wearing a veil with your dress, why not gether some friends, grab the vieil and go and try on some hair pieces to see how it looks?
Post # 16
hugs to you! don’t carry this burden alone- let your friends and family in and share what’s going on. i don’t know how comfy you are with this idea, but what about not even using a wig? natalie portman rocked the bald look, and it might be more physically comfortable. also, those who love you will love you and support you no matter what, and you may look gorgeous with your natural look. also, i don’t know a ton about chemo, but does your hair fall out right away? your wedding is relatively soon- maybe you won’t have this issue by then? or maybe you can push the wedding up? either way, the hive is here to support you!