(Closed) Should I call off the wedding now??? (long,sorry)

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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55 posts
Worker bee

Dear, please don’t cancel your wedding unless you truly don’t feel well enough to deal with it. You need to go through with the chemo. Being a bald bride is brave and beautiful, even if you choose to wear a wig. It is inspiring! And best of all, when the wedding day is all over, you will be married to your wonderful, supportive fiance. Please tell him about the relapse. You need to get it off your chest. He will be there for you.

Best wishes for your marriage!

 

Post # 18
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108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You should still have your wedding! You will be a beautiful blushing bride no matter what, everyone that will be at the wedding celebrating your day and your love for you and your Fiance will love you and support you. Your health is number one and whtaever you do will be right. 

Post # 19
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104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

So much easier said than done, but the day is about you and your Fiance getting married, not your hair.  I know that doesn’t make it any easier and it is so easy for others to say. . . But I imagine he doesn’t want to postpone because you may be bald.  He probably can’t wait to marry you! Discuss it with him. Do what is right for you! I agree with others that if you aren’t feeling up to it of course that is understandable, but if you still feel up to it and want to get married, go for it!!  Good luck,  And keep being strong. 

Post # 20
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104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Also, just wanted to mention that my mother went through chemo and had the neatest wigs, so you could probably find something super awesome.  Either way you will be beautiful, so just focus on eachother and getting healthy and growing old together 🙂

Post # 21
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21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

As I once was told: Never postpone joy.

Post # 22
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1009 posts
Bumble bee

Hugs to you.  I can’t even imagine what you are going through.  Talk to your Fiance and decide what you guys want to do.  

If you decide to cancel/postpone the wedding, explain the situation to your vendors and see if you can get your deposits back.  A friend had to postpone her wedding because of her FI’s medical issues and almost every vendor gave her the deposit back.  

Post # 23
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11 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

HUGS

You can’t wait on the chemo… the longer you put it off, the harder it will be. You’re engaged and getting married!  Dont let hair change that! You can always wear a cute wig in any hairstyle you like and I’m sure you will look beautiful no matter what.  

Post # 24
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1123 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

HUGE HUGS!

 

I think you should talk to your fiance. I think being a bald bride will be just as beautiful as being a bride with a full head of hair. Be proud of how strong you are and all that you’ve made it through!

Post # 25
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9 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think you should let your Fiance decide if you guys should go through with the wedding or not. Not to be harsh, but the way I see it, this whole ordeal would prob. affect him more than you (depending on the outcome).

Post # 27
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313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You sweet girl!  Tell you fiance; he will help you decide.  This might be an easier decision made if you two make it together.

Bless you and good luck dear.

Post # 28
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306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Hugs! I’m really sorry you have to go through such ordeal..but I also think your treatment is important and your Fiance would want to be there for you so talk to him. If I could…I would totally give you my hair! I do wish for your speedy recovery.  Good luck!

Post # 29
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10 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Big hugs! I say do the chemo and go forward with the wedding. You have awesome advice here from everyone!

Post # 30
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575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Yikes!  I’m so sorry to hear about everything you are going through. 

Your post literally pushed me to finally register so I could post this comment. There was a post about a beautiful wedding with a bride facing a similar situation (sudden diagnosis with breast cancer), and she shared her experiences on A Practical Wedding.  Link is here.  Maybe that can help you explore some options that while they may not have been the original plan may work for you.

Ultimately, you need to do what is best for you, your Fiance, and your health.  Good luck to you!

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