(Closed) Should I call this wedding off?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3791 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Physical and emotional abuse is an automatic “don’t get married” in my book.  It was a simple mistake and he took it waaaay too far.  You didn’t feel safe or supported by him.  Cancelling a wedding is much better than having a divorce.

Post # 4
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869 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Postpone your wedding and get therapy with him asap… Maybe some anger management classes will help him deal with his anger issues….  This is why its never a good idea to pay for everything up front for anyones wedding because anything can happen I waited 2 weeks before my wedding before i sent out all the checks ect because GOD FOR BID something happened and our relationship didnt work out  let this be a lesson for you … 

Post # 5
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6354 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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latinabee :  He pushed you?! Has he been abusive before? 

Him laying his hands on you is a big NOPE in my eyes. You said you feel afraid that things will get worse. You should never feel afraid of your partner. It sucks to lose money on everything but consider yourself lucky that you ended it BEFORE you married this guy. 

Post # 7
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8601 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

hell yes you should cancel that wedding. His behavoir will only get worse. Hes already starting to get violent. You and your daughter deserve better. Get the divorce asap.

Post # 8
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9755 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Obviously dump this guy.

Post # 10
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9436 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Cancel the wedding. Just because it’s the first time he’s been physical doesn’t mean it won’t happen again – there is always a first time. Get out now! For your sake and your daughter’s.

Post # 11
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869 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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latinabee :  then call it off talk to your vendors see if they are willing to give you any amount of money back… explain to them what happened i am sure they will be understanding… 

Post # 12
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2758 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

OMG I’ve read all kinds of stories in the news about police officer husbands abusing and eventually shooting the wife and sometimes their kids in the USA. Maybe things are different in your country and your Fiance would never do that but this post scares me so much. 

I wonder if it would be safe to file for a restraining order/order of protection or if that would escalate things? Is there a safe place you can go after calling things off that the Fiance doesn’t know about? 

Post # 13
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218 posts
Helper bee

Cancel the wedding. Wasted money is better than being stuck in a hellish marriage. If not for you, do it for the sake of your daughter.

Post # 14
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869 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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latinabee :  You should also consider pressing charges against him because that will be a lesson to him to not touch another woman ever again… No one deserves to be pushed and shoved what if you hit the floor and broke something? sorry but this man deserves to sit in a court room with everyone looking at him so he can feel the pain he caused you. 

Post # 15
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1449 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Well if you’ve already had a courthouse wedding, then you are already married and this guy is your husband….so I don’t understand why you wouldn’t need a divorce. But regardless, I agree with PP that you shouldn’t stay in an abusive relationship. 

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