Post # 16
I wish everyone would drop it that the mom is hosting the shower. I don’t know anyone that cares if the brides mom hosts it. I really don’t, not in ant of my circles. I know I don’t care.
That said, to your question. I am wondering if your Maid/Matron of Honor can be in charge of the shower instead? Did she want to do it?
If not, I would probably skip it sadly. It sounds like the mom’s are trying to make it about themselves and invite whomever even if you don’t want them to. Sorry bee, sounds like avoiding the shower or someone else in charge of it is the best way to go.
Post # 17
When she asked her mother to host a shower in her honor, she ignored good etiquette. Now she is surprised that the mothers are ignoring good etiquette? That’s real.
Post # 18
I highly doubt the mothers want to invite a bunch of people not invited to the wedding simply because the OP asked her mom to host the shower. I can almost guarantee that the moms would still want to invite whoever they wanted even if the OP didn’t ask her mom to host it.
Post # 19
This feels like a way for you to scold someone for no reason. Yes, you shouldn’t ask people to host, but that is not what this thread is about, nor would it make sense that this is why the mother is acting this way.
OP, I’m really sorry this is happening over your event, but I honestly think you should just cancel. You are right that it would be super rude to have people there who aren’t invited to the wedding. Maybe your Maid/Matron of Honor can host something low key on her own.