Should I cancel my honeymoon?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What would you do?
    Keep the trip : (35 votes)
    27 %
    Cancel the trip : (93 votes)
    73 %
  • Post # 2
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    306 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2004

    emsie :  Need a lot more info-

    Why was he fired?  Is he highly employable/ advanced in his career?  My husband is at a point where we have regulary scheduled vacations and employers are  happy to give him the time, but we’re older (early 40s)  

    Do you have enough savings to cover the trip and his unemployment?

    If yes to the employable and savings I’d go, otherwise no.

    Post # 3
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    6828 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Unless you’re very well established with a robust savings account is cancel. You have zero risk and will get all of your money back. Plan a later cruise and enjoy the extra cash *just in case*

    Post # 4
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    3450 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

    In my personal experience employers have never had an issue granting time off for plans made prior to my start date. As long as you’re both ok with his time off being unpaid I would go on the trip as planned. But only you two know whats best for your situation and I couldn’t say for certain that his next employer would have no problem approving the time. However, if you’re not financially comfortable, the bank accounts are getting low and the trip combined with his lack of income may cause financial strain then thats a different story.

    Post # 5
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    531 posts
    Busy bee

    Wow, this is a hard one, and I’m sorry for such a dilemma when you should be enjoying the first period of your newlywed life.

    Unfortuantely I think your mom has a point. It sounds like a trip that will take several days, not just an over-the-weekend trip. I think it will ultimately depend on the employer but he probably should mention it at the beginning when he’s interviewed. Otherwise, they might be pissed later, and who knows if he would have to find another job yet again.

    My friend had a 2-week long trip overseas trip planned and then was laid off so had to look for a new job. She was upfront at the interview and asked them if she could get 2 weeks off since the trip was already paid for. They didn’t seem that happy but they hired her anyway and actually let her take the 2 weeks off before she reached the one-year mark.

    The 5-day deadline for the full payment must be putting a lot of pressure on you! Before you make the decision, ask your husband what he’s comfortable with, since it will be his job search.

    Good luck to you and I hope it works out!

    Post # 6
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    6771 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Can you afford to lose the payment for the cruise if he gets a job and can’t go? Will you be able to enjoy the cruise if he’s still unemployed? If yes and yes, go. If no on either, cancel–you can plan a different honeymoon when you know more what your immediate future will look like. 

     

    Post # 8
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    3450 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

    emsie :  Wedding and cruise savings are irrelevant and will quickly dwindle to nothing. You need to be concerned with your long term financial health and based on the update it doesn’t sound good. I understand your moms concern. You haven’t mentioned any type of regular savings or emergency cash, your Fiance was fired from his last job so that reference is likely shot and he’s not highly employable so who knows when he’ll find another job. Cancel, cancel, cancel!

    Post # 9
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    19 posts
    Newbee

    Did you Fiance discuss with his boss that he thought it was a needle and that he believes the police should be called? 

    Also, I think unless you have enough savings or make enough money to support the both of you up until the honeymoon and after until your then husband finds work, then you should probably cancel. 

    I’m sorry this is happening to you. It’s not a great situation for what is supposed to be a happy time period. Hopefully things work out for you.

    Post # 10
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    220 posts
    Helper bee

    Ok what about savings

    Post # 12
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    Wannabee

    emsie :  cancel this trip. You won’t be able to relax the whole time worrying about his unemployment and such. Let him find a new job, settle down & plan a new honeymoon

    Post # 13
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    220 posts
    Helper bee

    Umm yea after your update you definitely need to cancel you guys aren’t financially secure at all

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: City, State

    Job first, vacation second.

    Post # 15
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    Newbee

    I also just read your update. Since you have moved in with your mother, she is essentially supporting you in being able to save for a down payment so I think in that regard you do owe it her to respect her recommendation of cancelling the trip. I mean she let you move in so you can save for a down payment, I imagine she would be pretty miffed if you guys were off holidaying when you were supposed to be saving. 

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