(Closed) Should I change my destination wedding location because its not “safe”?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

OMG you are Canadian!

Sorry, I wouldn’t go to Mexico if someone paid me a million dollars, after I got back of course… too many canadians get killed there…. yes, I am paranoid of Mexico.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@sweetchiquita12:  As a guest, I wouldn’t want to attend a Destination Wedding in Mexico. I would probably just send a gift, to be honest.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Rivieria Maya is located in the Mexican state of Quintana Roo, which has not had any travel advisories issued.  The State Department is really proactive about issuign travel warnings, and the fact that no advisories are listed for Quintana Roo is a good sign.  The violence in Mexico is centered around the states of Michoacan, Sinaloa (both on the western side) and the border region.  If you suggested Juarez, I’d be concerned.  I would not be concerned about a tourist-friendly resort area.

FWIW, drug cartels genuinely don’t target tourists.  Tourists are targeted for petty crime (pick-pocketing, passport theft). 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Mexico is safe. Rpeat after me: Mexico is safe. Think of it like this. How many murders happen in the US every year? Thousands upon thousands. Yet we still live here, people still come here and the county keeps on going. What you have to keep in mind is no matter where you go certain areas aren’t safe, but that shouldn’t stop you from living your life. The majority of the violence is happening in border towns and certain areas. Resorts are safe and are a completely different animal than just walking a random street in Mexico. Just like walking in the suburbs and walking in downtown Detroit are 2 different things. 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

That’s a tough decision to make. I am sorry you are in this situation. I just want to share a little info that was given to us when we were considering a spring break family vacation. We have a good friend who is a threat analyst for Central and South America. This friend advised us that, although there are some parts of Mexico that are termed “safe”, it would be wise for us to avoid making plans to go anywhere in the country because the travel advisories do not necessarily tell the entire story due to political sensitivities.  

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Agree with @CallMeC and @Abbie.  I try to take all these (mostly exaggerated) reports with a grain of salt.  I live in New York City, which many people would consider to be dangerous.  In my opinion, it’s not.  I walk around by myself, at night, in neighborhoods like the Lower East Side (gasp!)

As PPs mentioned, there are no travel advisories on these resort areas and they are generally safe.  The only reason I don’t personally travel to Mexico is that flights to the Caribbean are typically cheaper from the east coast 😉

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would not go to Acapulco, Puerto Vallarta or pretty much anything on the west coast.  East coast, sure.  Riviera Maya, Cancun – no problem.

 

From this article:  http://www.cbc.ca/news/world/story/2012/01/06/f-mexico-q-a-walter-mckay.html

 

Where do you see it going in the next year or so?

McKay: It’s about as violent as it can get. When that many people get killed in horrific manners — decapitation, burning, bodies dissolved in acid — you can’t get much worse than that.

The violence has now spread out from Ciudad Juarez as the cartels fight for different areas. The declining violence in Ciudad Juarez is because one side is winning. I think, what you are seeing is the dominance of one gang taking over because you’ve got more members on the same team now.

Other areas — ­Culiacan, Puerto Vallarta , Jalisco ­— are starting to heat up. These are now battlefronts.

In 2010 there were some 15,000 execution-style murders. This year it’s 18,600 so it’s worse than last year.

What tourist areas of Mexico are the safest?

Tourists walk underneath a pier in Cancun on Feb. 1, 2011. At the time, Mexico was seeking to overhaul its image abroad during a raft of bad publicity over drug-related violence, including beheadings and shootings, that has been taking a toll on the holiday industry. Foreign tourism is a key source of income for Mexico. Tourists walk underneath a pier in Cancun on Feb. 1, 2011. At the time, Mexico was seeking to overhaul its image abroad during a raft of bad publicity over drug-related violence, including beheadings and shootings, that has been taking a toll on the holiday industry. Foreign tourism is a key source of income for Mexico. (Gerardo Garcia/Reuters)


McKay: The east coast, Cancun, Merida, are still fine. Veracruz is a state I would avoid. When you have gangsters dumping 35 bodies on a freeway in the middle of the day, that just does not give me confidence about the city or the state of Veracruz.

Oaxaca, all the beaches along there are secure.

If I wanted to be absolutely safe, I would go to Cancun. Los Cabos, Baja California as a state, is fairly free of violence.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We were going to go to Cabo for our Honeymoon but changed it just to give our parents peace of mind.  I can’t advise you on the saftey of the area, but your guests may not want to come if they’re worried about it.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Mexico as a whole isn’t unsafe; it’s certain areas (as PPs pointed out). If I were invited to your wedding, I’d definitely go.

If your family and friends are likely to be scared regardless of the situation, I’d consider relocating, then.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Regardless of how safe it may be, I think due to all the bad press, a lot of people will be warying of attending the wedding in Mexico.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly I would still go. To me it’s like hearing a story about all of this crime in Scarborough (sorry, I know, Toronto centric) and then never going to Toronto again.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I mean I would hope people wouldn’t pull out of your wedding. That is just silly to make such a rash decison over an educated opinion. At the end of the day you have to do what is best for you and hope that people upon hearing the word Mexico will use good judgement and not a knee jerk reaction. I travel to and around the border all the time and I’m still kickin 😉 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

I had my Destination Wedding in Playa del Carmen last May and wouldn’t have done anything differently. There were a few people who had no interest in traveling to Mexico but everyone who attended had the time of their lives. 

We walked around the touristy areas of Playa and felt safe. 

If it is what you guys want, go for it!

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