Should I change my last name?

posted 2 months ago in Names
Post # 16
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224 posts
Helper bee

MiaSuperstar :  Oh that’s interesting! I legally changed my last name on my marriage certificate, which means that I had to change my social.. and then my passports.. and then my driver’s license.. It has been a process oh my goodness.

Post # 17
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216 posts
Helper bee

I thought I’d have qualms about having a different last name than my daughter, but it turns out I don’t. I’m not changing my name. 

Post # 19
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1612 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

Honestly that is something you have to decide. I also don’t have a middle name name just a first name and a last name when I got engaged I knew that I was going to drop my maiden name and take his for me it’s really important for us to be a family and I knew that when we had children that it was important for everyone to have the same last name.

Post # 20
Hostess
6422 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2019

peekaboobs :  is there any way your Fiance would take yours. That is what mine is doing. We are going to become Mr and Mrs mylastname because I refuse to give mine up (for many reasons) but we both wanted our future children to have the same name as both of us. Fiance has no emotional connection to his last name so is taking mine and I am beyond thrilled. 

Post # 21
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397 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I go by my husband’s last name socially and professionally. Legally I am still my maiden name. It works for me. 

Post # 23
Hostess
6422 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2019

peekaboobs :  my sister has just got married and is sad to have given up her last name so she is going to get her maiden name tattooed. Actually we are getting matching sister tattoos apart from I’m keeping my name. Maybe his tattoo can be a tribute to his former name when he takes yours ha ha 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee

I was in a similar situation as you. I have a unique first and last name and no middle name (an ethnic thing). My husband speaks a different language and he has a rare, long, 3 part last name.  

But ultimately, it’s your choice whether you change it, keep it or combine it, with or without a hyphen, or make your maiden name your middle name.

If I were to take my husband’s name, I it would flow well, even though they are different languages, but my maiden name flows better.

I decided to keep my last name. In many cultures, women don’t necessarily take their husbands last name. Plenty of South Americans, Italians, Arabs, Sri Lankans have different traditions when it comes to last names. Both my and my husband’s  parents have different last names and they don’t seem to be bothered by it. 

Also, our generation is more aware of different women’s decisions and keeping your last name is not something unheard of. Also, I all the cost and time of changing the last name put me off. 

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