Post # 1
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Newbee
Hi everyone! I really need some advices …
So, I’ve decided on using purple as my wedding color and let all my bridesmaids know. And one of my bidesmais got engaged last week, she bought a dress to wear in her engagement party, it was a purple dress (and i was ok with it though). Until when i got to the party and saw that she had decorated the place in purple and blue. I know that her favorite color is blue, but i just dont get the purple. She also had her anouncement and thank you cards in purple ….. i was really thrown back because she didn’t say anything to me about that. it’s not that i’m selfish or anything, but i felt like she should say something to me since she knew that my color theme is purple! …. now i dont know whether i should change my color, i just dont feel the same about the purple color anymore!!!
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
How close together are your weddings?
Unless they are back to back, I don’t think you need to change your color.
So many people use similar colors. Everything else in the wedding will be different, it doesn’t matter if you have similar color schemes.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
What are your other colors? I really don’t think it’s a big deal… purple is a lovely color and matches lots of other colors without looking “the same” each time!
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
no need. two separate weddings. they will be at two different locations with two different groups of people and have completely different feels.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
There are so many different shades of purple…even if you both end up having purple as your wedding color, they could be completely different shades.
Post # 7
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Newbee
Thanks for your replies!
The weddings maybe about a year apart, but we have a really small circle of friends, and we’re in a small vietnamese community, everyone might end up knowing each other though, so i dont know, i dont want people to feel like they’ve been at my wedding before ….. she used the eggplant color, and that’s exactly what i wanted, i think i should make it clear that now i’m thinking of lavender or lilac ….
Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
@mocha_luv: If your weddings are a year apart, no one is going to remember that the colors were the same.
Stay with the color scheme you love. The only people who notice will probably be you and her.
Post # 9
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Honey bee
why do you care? it’s just a color.
Post # 10
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Busy bee
It doesn’t matter! AT ALL!
Post # 11
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Helper bee
plus, even if you use the same shade, you can go in so many different directions. eggplant and gold looks different from eggplant and sky blue or eggplant and lime green, for example. I would say that unless your weddings were back-to-back weeks and you had the EXACT same color palette, it’s a non-issue.
And, maybe it’s worthwhile to be a bit tighter-lipped with your plans if you fear this could become a repetitive issue with you two having strikingly similar choices 😉
Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
If you’re getting married this august, and the weddings are a year apart, then her wedding would be after yours – so it would be at HER wedding that they would feel like they’ve already been!
No worries, from my perspective. Since you get married first, you can do whatever you want and not worry about what she’s planning (although stealing her ideas wouldn’t be very nice, haha).
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
Use whatever color YOU want to use. Like PPs have said, it’ll probably look really different. If she kinda killed your love for purple, go with something else.
Post # 14
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Newbee
thanks guys!
I think i just had a bridezilla moment.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
My cousin stole my color, slower, and date so ours is a month a part now and let me tell you, I am NOT changing anything. It is my wedding and even if the colors are the same, everything else will be so different! Nobody will think about it. And if anything they will think she copied you. (and that is IF they think anything at all). It wont be the same guest list either. Forget about it. Keep your color and LOVE IT!
Post # 16
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Helper bee
It won’t matter. Especially if they are a year apart. Let it go. 🙂
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