Post # 1
So I changed my name last night.
I was so up in the air until dinner right before we went.
I decided to be Tranquility Mylastname Hislastname (no hyphen). I figured this way I am able to use just hislastname for most of my documents but still keep mylastname for my daughter’s sake. (we will be changing his name once the legal adoption goes though).
So my question is, should I change my work email addy now? My business cards? My phone display name? Omgsh so much to think about…
Post # 3
I would change it, especially if you are going to use this name in the long run and change everything over on all documents.
on another note – i am in the same situation as you with a child having my last name and i’m not sure what to do with that because i am hesitant to change his last name when i get married but i want to change mine and ideally would like us all to have the same last name…
Post # 4
I would do it, but then I have to do it legally to keep my license. I am dreading this because I have so much marketing material combined with my mom so a lot of it says MomFirstName & MyFirstName Lastname. It looks so much nicer & fits better than what I will be changing it to: MomFirstName LastName & MyFirstName NewSuperlongLastname!
Post # 5
Well I still havent dont it. It took me 5 months to just change my name on my license and health card, so maybe it will take me just as long to change my email lol.
@lilsweetie: My daughter is 6. I figured she is old enough to have input on her name, so I asked her if she wanted to become a “hislastname”. She said sure, only if she could keep “mylastname”. So I decided to have my name as Tranquility Mylastname Hislastname. No hyphen (so that I could drop the Mylastname on paper).
It works for us because we will have the same last name. She has no contact with her bio father so it isn’t stepping on anyone’s toes either.
@Ms. Martian: This is how I feel about my email. I will have to change my business cards and update everyone on the change. I just don’t know how to make that transition.
Post # 6
Can you set up an alias for your work email? That way if you forget to inform someone you have sporadic contact with your old one will still work.
Post # 7
You can do things gradually! You don’t need to do a massive overhaul of your ‘names’ and make it stressful. Do the legal and important stuff now, and then as you log into things / get mail from places then change your name with them then 🙂