(Closed) Should I change out of my wedding dress?

posted 7 years ago in South Asian
Post # 3
Member
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Could you perhaps change into it as your getaway outfit?

Post # 4
Member
7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I debated with changing into a sari for the going away… but, since we weren’t doing an official exit, I didn’t see the point.  Plus, I figured this was the ONE time I’d get to wear a dress. 

I don’t think there is a ‘wrong’ answer here, honestly.  I’d ask your family and see if they will be upset if you are not acknowledging your culture by not changing.  I’m sure some of the traditional relatives will notice it and possibly make comments, but it’s not that big of a deal.

Some of the fusion can come in from the dress of your relatives, don’t you think?  We had a handful of people wearing sari and it was beautiful.  If I were to start planning all over again, I’d skip the dress and find a sari to wear (and then change into a fun cocktail dress for the reception).  But, that’s pretty much because I hated dress shopping and the entire dress experience (alterations, sizing, etc.)… I can understand why you’d want to stay in a dress the whole time – especially if you LOVE your dress!!

Are there other ways or traditions you can bring into the ceremony or reception so it’s not all Western… 

Post # 5
Member
671 posts
Busy bee

Hey Pree!

I grew up ultra American too and only wear Indian attire for temple! I am totally obsessed with my dress too! I can’t imagine how anyone would ever want to take their dresses off! I want to wear mine to my honeymoon! Unfortunately we have this crazy culture that seems to sometimes run our life and conflict in huge ways with our wants. My Fiance and I (both Hindu) are opting for a small Hindu ceremony on Friday and the big white dress ceremony on Saturday. This way I will wear the lehnga all day and nothing can be said the next day. Unfortunately you know Indian families and how they LOVE to gossip and make mountains out of mole hills so unless you want to live when your great aunt’s cousin telling her children how you have lost your culture (lol!) then you have to oblige them in some way! Even if it is just having an Indian themed rehersal dinner or family get together the day before where you wear the Indian get up!

Post # 6
Member
49 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

In my culture, the groom’s family provides a trauseau.  So my Mother-In-Law has found the perfect wedding sari for me.  It is lovely, just not what I always dreamed of as my wedding dress.  So, with as many events as we have, I decided to wear the Mother-In-Law gifted Sari for the ceremony (it is the shorter event) and I will be wearing my chosen lengha for the reception, which will allow me to move around as I please.

Post # 7
Member
11 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Maybe you could bring in culture in other ways? Mendhi with your white dress like Mrs. Spaniel? Or maybe Indian jewelery like bangles and a tikka? I personally think that would look goregeous but it obviously depends on your overall look.

Post # 8
Member
28 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Do whatever makes you happy.*  I was born and raised in the US but am Indian (hindu-jain).  My husband is Swedish.  He was totally happy doing a civil wedding in Sweden, so I had a beautiful white gown and the big fat wedding in India.

I LOVE Indian clothes.  I swear, I would have bought and worn more if I could.  So if you love your dress, then hey, wear it!   But if you love Indian clothes too, this is your chance to get something amazing.  

 

 

*Also do whatever that will avoid the most amount of whining by family members in the futre.

Post # 9
Member
23 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@happy924: Congrats on your recent wedding!  I was just wondering what you ended up doing?  I grew up ultra-American as well and I have only worn a sari about 2 other times in my life.  We are having our ceremony at the same place we are having the reception so I did not think I would change.  However, my family (my mom) really wants me to change at the reception.  I don’t mind since my wedding dress is super poufy so at least I can go sleek for the reception part.  My biggest concern though, is, that I am not going to be able to move around or dance at the reception as easily as I could with a cocktail dress or 2nd wedding gown.  I am going to start practicing wearing a sari and heels around the house but I just wanted see how everything ended up going for you.  Take care and congrats again!

Post # 9
Member
23 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@happy924: Congrats on your recent wedding!  I was just wondering what you ended up doing?  I grew up ultra-American as well and I have only worn a sari about 2 other times in my life.  We are having our ceremony at the same place we are having the reception so I did not think I would change.  However, my family (my mom) really wants me to change at the reception.  I don’t mind since my wedding dress is super poufy so at least I can go sleek for the reception part.  My biggest concern though, is, that I am not going to be able to move around or dance at the reception as easily as I could with a cocktail dress or 2nd wedding gown.  I am going to start practicing wearing a sari and heels around the house but I just wanted see how everything ended up going for you.  Take care and congrats again!

The topic ‘Should I change out of my wedding dress?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors