(Closed) Should I change the stone?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Let me see if I have this correct: You already have your ring but your mom wants to give you her stone? If you’re happy with your ring the way it is, maybe make your mom’s stone into another piece of jewelry. Is the stone small enough that you could put it in your wedding band?

Post # 4
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1473 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Instead of switching out the center stone, could you take your mothers diamond and make it into a necklace or another ring for you to wear? I used to work at a local jewlers and I know the owner would never melt down someone elses ring and re-do it. It’s very costly and it’s hard work. He would buy the ring off of them and use that money towards a new ring if that is what they wanted.

 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@Black-Eyed-Susan:  maybe make your mom’s stone into another piece of jewelry  <—- This is what I was thinking too.

ETA:  Can you make it into a right-hand ring?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Black-Eyed-Susan:  I really like the idea of using it in your wedding band.

The ring you have is beautiful and I think the proportions would be off if you went with a smaller stone. It also sounds like your Fiance would prefer you keep the ring the way it is. 

You could also consider designing a right hand ring with your mom’s stone. That way, you have your engagement ring that symbolizes your relationship with your Fiance, but also a ring (that you could wear all the time) that symbolizes your friendship and connection to your mother. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Melting down a ring and remaking it isn’t usually an easy task, and it’s expensive. A jeweler would more than likely take your current ring and get you a new similar setting that would fit your new stone better.

What about have a right hand ring made with your mom’s stone? That way you keep your original engagement ring plus have a bit of your mom with you always. 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you could find a place that would melt down your gold while still keeping your diamonds, it would be almost as expensive as custom making a ring because it is a ton of work to make a handmade custom ring.

And if you wanted the same setting with a bigger diamond, then you would still have to add diaonds in the band and halo to make it fit. Either way, you’re going to spend a lot of money,

Couldn’t you save up for a similar diamond to your mothers and then make them into a pair of earrings? Nothing needs to be done now.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@MapleMoose:  I’m with you. I think a right-hand ring is the best option.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@TopazWedding:  Why? Is it too flashy for you? I wouldn’t think anything of it, esp. because it is your mom’s ring. 

What are you planning on doing with the original stone if you did switch it out? Sell it or keep it for another piece of jewelry?

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I like everyone elses ideas of making another ring out of it, but It looks like you don’t.

Do you think your Fiance might be a little upset that he picked your ring out & you don’t want it anymore, though?

Post # 16
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487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My mother has a diamond that she inherited when she got married that was also my grandmother’s and my great-grandmother’s.  I didn’t use it for my engagement ring, but what I’m doing is having it made into a necklace for me to wear on my wedding day.  I’m doing that so I have something special and part of my family when I get married, but then I plan to put the necklace away in a safe to only be worn for special occassions because, like you, I don’t wear many rings and I tend to lose necklaces.  All I wear as a ring is a 2mm band that I’ve work for 16 years.  I know you’d like to have a bigger stone now, but maybe if you went that route, you could have it for sentimental reasons but not fear you’ll lose it, and then possibly upgrade it in a few years to a new setting.  Once you’ve had your current ring for that amount of time, it’s totally acceptable to upgrade and your fiance won’t feel slighted because you’re not wearing the diamond he picked out.

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