Post # 1
The advantage of the 4 year old option is that he is closer in age to our Flower Girl who is 3 years old.
The really nice option for the 8 year old boy is that he’s my bestfriend’s (and maid of honor’s son).
Post # 3
Depends how well-behaved they are! 8 years old might be a little on the older side for the ringbearer.
Post # 4
I think it is totally up to you as well! Or do both! That’s what I’m doing! Who cares what "etiquette" says! I want ALL our niece & nephews to be FGs and RBs, we’ll have 3 FGs and 2 RBs.
Post # 5
Have two! If the ring bearer will carry your actual rings, there could be one on each pillow (or whatever you’re using).
Post # 6
Is he the mature kind? I have a 4 year old and I don’t think she would do it.