Post # 1
Some background information:
My best friend and I have known each other since we were 4 years old and have been there for each other for 16 years.
The dates overlapping was a complete accident.
My boyfriend paid $800 for my ticket which is non refundable and can’t be changed in any way (we talked to hotwire to be sure)
I am a bridesmaid in her wedding.
This is an extremely difficult choice that I would love some feedback on. My best friend will be devastated if I miss her wedding but my boyfriend will also be very upset if I don’t go to Hawaii with him especially since he already bought the ticket and will have wasted that money if I don’t go. He won’t be in Hawaii alone though, the main reason for the trip is so he can visit his best friend who is stationed in Hawaii and he hasn’t seen for awhile. Me coming along on this trip was an after thought.
Any opinions on the situation would be helpful. Thank you.
Post # 3
@anwrootbeer420: this is Tough. Was the trip with your boyfriend planned before the wedding? Did she not ask when you were available? Can she change her date? If she picked a date after you booked a vacation without asking you, then that is her fault. If she really wants you there, can she change the date?
Post # 4
If you going was an after thought I would go to my friend’s wedding. He has other plans on his trip so its not like his trip will be completely blown.
Post # 5
I would go to my best friends wedding. There will be other vacations but (hopefully) your best friend won’t have another wedding.
Post # 6
If my best friend decided to go on a trip instead of coming to my wedding I would be incredibly hurt. And I would never choose a trip over going to her wedding either.
Post # 7
Friend’s wedding. Hawaii will always be there but your best friend’s wedding is a one time deal. If you miss it then its gone. If your boyfriend loves you then he should understand that being there for your best friend is more important then going to visit one of his.
Post # 8
Best friends weddng wins, sorry.
You won’t be able to get a refund for your flight but you can pay a fee (I think it’s around $200) to move your flight to a new date. Call the airline to do that.
Post # 9
I maybe be missing something but essentially your asking if it’s ok to blow off being a BM in a girls wedding, that you’ve been best friends with for 16years so you can go on a vacation in which you said you were added as a fun after thought ?
Post # 10
@anwrootbeer420: As a bride experiencing the same thing as your best friend, be in the wedding. There will be plenty of vacations and this is the most important day of her life. It is extremely painful.
My childhood best friend has known my date for two years and wasn’t paying attention and scheduled a study abroad in Paris the same month as my wedding. She still doesn’t know which she is going to do..
Post # 12
@anwrootbeer420: I absolutely would choose to be there for my best friend. Her wedding is only going to happen once – I can go on a vacation any other time.
Post # 13
Wedding. No question and without hesitation.
Post # 14
Did your BF not know about the wedding? Did he include you when he was arranging the tickets or did he just surprise you?
Post # 15
Choose your best friend’s wedding. See if you can move your plane ticket. i may be in a similar situation this year, and my vacation was already planned, but if she ends up having her wedding that weekend, I will stay.
Post # 16
He shouldn’t have purchased that non refundable ticket without clearing it with you first.