(Closed) Should I choose to be a bridesmaid in my best friends wedding over going on the

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@anwrootbeer420:  this is Tough. Was the trip with your boyfriend planned before the wedding? Did she not ask when you were available? Can she change her date?  If she picked a date after you booked a vacation without asking you, then that is her fault. If she really wants you there, can she change the date?

Post # 4
3773 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

If you going was an after thought I would go to my friend’s wedding. He has other plans on his trip so its not like his trip will be completely blown.

Post # 5
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I would go to my best friends wedding.  There will be other vacations but (hopefully) your best friend won’t have another wedding. 

Post # 6
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If my best friend decided to go on a trip instead of coming to my wedding I would be incredibly hurt. And I would never choose a trip over going to her wedding either. 

Post # 7
1616 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Friend’s wedding.  Hawaii will always be there but your best friend’s wedding is a one time deal.  If you miss it then its gone.  If your boyfriend loves you then he should understand that being there for your best friend is more important then going to visit one of his.

Post # 8
6872 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Best friends weddng wins, sorry. 

You won’t be able to get a refund for your flight but you can pay a fee (I think it’s around $200) to move your flight to a new date. Call the airline to do that.

Post # 9
6016 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I maybe be missing something but essentially your asking if it’s ok to blow off being a BM in a girls wedding, that you’ve been best friends with for 16years so you can go on a vacation in which you said you were added as a fun after thought ? 

Post # 10
1156 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@anwrootbeer420:   As a bride experiencing the same thing as your best friend, be in the wedding.  There will be plenty of vacations and this is the most important day of her life.  It is extremely painful.

My childhood best friend has known my date for two years and wasn’t paying attention and scheduled a study abroad in Paris the same month as my wedding.  She still doesn’t know which she is going to do..

Post # 12
23907 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@anwrootbeer420:  I absolutely would choose to be there for my best friend. Her wedding is only going to happen once – I can go on a vacation any other time.

Post # 13
3748 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Wedding. No question and without hesitation. 

Post # 14
1816 posts
Buzzing bee

Did your BF not know about the wedding?  Did he include you when he was arranging the tickets or did he just surprise  you?

Post # 15
2124 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Choose your best friend’s wedding. See if you can move your plane ticket. i may be in a similar situation this year, and my vacation was already planned, but if she ends up having her wedding that weekend, I will stay. 

Post # 16
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

The wedding.

He shouldn’t have purchased that non refundable ticket without clearing it with you first.

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