(Closed) should i confront him and how?help!!!

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

Has he given you a reason to suspect that he’s cheating on you?  Have you been cheated on in the past?  It’s just pictures and none of them scandalous so I would need much more info to comment.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Confront him.  Get it out in the open and see where it falls.  You deserve the truth, always. 

Post # 6
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600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

Isn’t that good he deleted them?  I mean if I was new to e-mail, I would want to get rid of stuff I didn’t want to see by pressing the delete button.  You’re looking at this as if he’s trying to hide something from you, but what if he’s trying to hide something from himself?  I think this is much more innocent than you think and I disagree with tess75 because I’d be PISSED if my SO snooped in my e-mail even if he had the password from me.  By you confronting him, it will only backfire into an argument about you checking up on him and him needing some privacy.  I would just wait until there’s more evidence if you’re really freaking out about this.  Maybe she’s a psycho ex and he just gave her his e-mail to get her to leave him alone.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

There’s nothing to confront him about.  Just let it go. Its not a crime to receive pictures from someone or to delete them. 

Post # 8
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600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

And the phone… I dunno.  I hate when my SO looks at my phone & I’m not cheating, never will cheat, never have cheated.  I’m an only child so privacy is important to me above all other basic human rights.  I freak out if someone looks over my shoulder as I read a magazine or book.  I also snatch my cell away from him all the time even if he’s just handing it to me.  Especially around his b-day or Christmas… 😉  

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m sorry but I would confront him. Not confront him like who the f** is this chick, but I would be concerned about their relationship. It sounds as though you had no idea they were friends. I know all my Fiancé friends and they know me very well.

From what you wrote he knows you check his emails so it would be stupid on his part to give her his email address knowing she would contact him and you find out. Then again I don’t know your man and have run into some very unintelligent men in my life time. Also if this is on your mind bring it up. I used to harbor my feelings a lot thinking it would help when all honesty it just made things worse.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Going through his phone and his emails sounds like you are **looking** for something. 

I would be more concerned with understanding why you feel the need to look for something and invade his privacy. 

Post # 13
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442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@bird: Fiancé and I don’t have any friends of the opposite sex, unless they are mutual friends. This situation works for us and we are happy about it. Talk about that unspoken rule and make it set in stone if that is what you BOTH want. Talk about everything concerning the relationship so there are no loop holes or misunderstanding.

I wish you the best of luck with everything, take care.

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