(Closed) Should i contact my ex after 7 months apart?

posted 5 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 16
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Bumble bee

Daisy_Mae:  +1.

I know he deleted his FB, but if he wanted to contact you it would take him less than 30 seconds to open a new FB account and find you.  I don’t think there’s anything to be gained by contacting him, and there’s a lot that could go wrong if you do.

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

barnes66:  

and contacting an ex on the weekend is double-death. Please don’t.

You need to start dating again. Get a roster of at least 3 going. You probably won’t want to text/call the ex anymore.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I definitely wouldn’t do it! My ex texted and emailed me periodically for about eight months after we broke up—just friendly stuff, mostly, amd rarely romantic. He did this both before and after he knew I had a new boyfriend. My reaction was always: “Oof, that’s sad.” My bf’s ex also texted him a fair amount: very frequently before he told her he had a new gf, and after that, every few months. Again, friendly, non-romantic stuff for the most part. He always felt very bad for her when she sent them and, no matter what her pretext for texting was, he assumed she was sad and tipsy. Seeing him react to her texts convinced me that ex-texting just isn’t ever worth it—there’s no dignity in it if you’re even 0.01% not yet healed from the breakup. No possible outcome could be worth the embarrassment of being pitied!

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

barnes66:  I know you want to believe that you are over him, but it seems that you are not. With that said, opening old wounds hurts! Why cause yourself that pain? 

Post # 20
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84 posts
Worker bee

Nope, you two broke up for a reason. I have an urge feeling that you still not over him. Find somebody else so that you can get him off your mind. The more you think about it, the more painful it can be (trust me, I’ve been there before). Move on, bee 

Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper

barnes66:  Good for you. It’s hard, but stay strong. There really are no pros at all to contacting him. It’s ALL cons and you should feel good that you’ve recognized that and resisted the urge.

Post # 26
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Blushing bee

4 hours apart? That’s not that far away in my opinion. 

If he met someone closer that he liked more, it sounds like he wasn’t as crazy about you as you were about him. At first when I read your post I thought sure why not contact him, but the fact is that 4 hours would not keep someone away from the love of their life. 

Post # 27
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1850 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

barnes66:  Move along folks…nothing to see here. 

Glad you decided not to contact him. It might be helpful to make a list of inconsiderate things he’s done that would keep you from calling him in the future. 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 7 months ago by  mg1363.
Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Write down all the bad stuff. That way when it’s 2am and you are sad (and maybe drunk) you can pull it out to remind yourself why you are better off without him!

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