(Closed) Should I cut him some slack?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I am waiting for a “holidays” proposal as well, and I have been w/ my SO for 6 years (this Saturday). You used the right word – rationally! I know I have only a little over 2 months to wait, but I feel like I have already been waiting FOREVER! But hey, at least he is getting a plan together and he knows you want it soon. So I would say, as hard as it’s going to be, try to cut him some sllack for a while. Pressuring him won’t help. Trust me, my SO gets mad now when I bring it up, even as a joke (thought it’s okay if HE brings it up jokingly, of course!). Just try to hang in there a little longer. You are not alone!  🙂

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Look if you have waited 7 years, and he is definitely going to propose by the end of the year, you need to relax.  You will always regret it if you push it, just for the sake of 2 months – which won’t make any difference at all in a few years time.  But him not getting to propose as he planned will stay with you….

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Personally I couldn’t deal with a man who had to put together some grand plan, needed input from others on how to plan it and would push it back because I seemed impatient. But I also wouldn’t date for 7 years with no ring so there is that. I have no clue, to me that is playing games and I’d be highly annoyed. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Meant2Bee:  I didn’t mean to say you were pressuring him, I just meant pressuring our SO’s in general. And a lot of times I think what we see as normal conversations about things we want, they see as “pressure” or “pushing them.” At least, that’s the vibe I get from my SO.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I think he needs to just do it sooner than later. NYE is clique and besides he has made you wait 7 years and you are just going to resent him even more if he doesn’t do it soon.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

well it sounds to me he is planning something great and he is also excited so I wouldn’t rush him. He is just as excited as you are and I think rushing him might take away from the excitement. I would let him get creative and enjoy surprising you because its not just your moment its both your moments and memories. At least you know he is definately going to do it and is on the same page as you.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2013

i’d bet you’re friend is trying to throw you off with the NYE thing. i don’t want to get your hopes up, but i wouldn’t be surprised if he was planning for something to happen soon. you really never know. i totally expected something grand out of Fiance – he always made it seem he would do something elaborate when we talked about it. and he did it at the most unexpected, and totally mundane, time. so, you never know! be as patient as possible and if you’re anything like me, as soon as you feel you’re about to break – it will happen. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

You are a saint for waiting 7 years already… he can make it happen before New Years!!  Tons of people get engaged on NYE anyway.

 

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