Post # 1
I just had my first fitting and I was suprised by how HEAVY my dress felt. I was in it for all of 15 minutes and my back was killing me. I’m hoping it will be better once its taken in a little but I’m sure it will still be heavy. I’m also having an outdoor ceremony (don’t want to drag train through the mud) and I really didn’t like the look of the bustle or that my seamstress would have to sew visible buttons onto it. I did already buy a cathedral veil, so I’m not sure if that would look funny.
Here is my dress:
https://www.justinalexander.com/justin-alexander/collection/wedding-dresses/8825/#crl8-gallery (I will wear a hoop or petticoat to give it more of a bell shape)
Here is the train length I’m considering:
Post # 2
I would leave it as is but I’m a sucker for a train! I’d also worry that by removing the train you would be altering the design you fell in love with initially.
In the end all that matters is that you feel beautiful and comfortable so go with your gut!
Post # 3
No, do not cut it off.
Firstly, trains are gorgeous and you’ll never get a chance to wear one again
Secondly, you will spoil the lines and look of the dress and compromise its structure.
Use a wrist loop if it is really that heavy . I don’t like bustles either so I do see why you wouldn’t want one.
It is a beautiful, gracious, elegant dress, don’t make it more ordinary.
Post # 4
Don’t cut anything until you have had it properly fitted. A properly fitted dress should not feel like it is weighing you down even if it is heavy / has a long train.
That said I think you could take a little of the train without it affecting the overall look – I wouldn’t make it as short as in your picture though. Somewhere in between would be nice.
What kind of bustle is your seamstress doing? for a ball gown she should be doing either an over bustle or a ballroom bustle. I’ve seen a lot of french bustles recently and they look terrible on the majority of dresses.
And if you don’t like the look of a bustle you can always get a wristloop.
Over / American Bustle:
Post # 5
I was thinking no it’s perfect and not even that long, until I realised that was a photo showing the length you would cut it too, haha.
I think that would look beautiful! If your back was hurting after 15 minutes imagine what it would be like at the end of the day, ouch. I might be biased though as I bought a dress without a train that I had hemmed only at the front so it now just has a little baby train. I thought a long train would just be too much of a hassle! I ultimately decided against a veil too because I didn’t want to cover the back of my dress, but was also considering a cathedral veil. I think long veils with a shorter train look beautiful 🙂
Post # 6
I like the train but if it bothers you after being fitted then trim it off. It will still look beautiful with a cathedral veil.
Post # 7
I picked a dress with no train and loved the ease and convenience it offered. I think a short or absent train is a great idea 🙂
Post # 8
I had a long train and loved it, but it was heavy. When it was bustled (after the ceremony) it did make it feel much lighter (although the bustle ribbon broke after about 5 minutes, so if you do bustle it, make sure it has more than one ribbon holding it up!). There were no visible buttons or anything – the ribbons were sewn under the skirt (one near the top and one near the bottom) and tied together to achieve the bustle. There are lots of different bustle styles. I think mine was a French bustle?
I also found my skirt felt ligher when I was wearing the petticoat which held a lot of the weight. Why not wait until you have tried it with the petticoat to decide?
No point in being miserable and uncomforable all day though. The dress looks nice with the shorter train in the picture too.
Post # 9
littlemisspetite : I definately won’t make a decision until its been taken in and ive tried it with the right petticoat. I’m not sure what type of bustle it is. She basically made a huge row of pickups in the back (like 10) and said she would have to sew buttons onto it and that it was the only way to do the bustle. Maybe it just looked funny because it was pinned but it just made me feel like a was wearing a comforter. If I keep it any longer than the photo it will still need to be bustled. I also wanted to add little off the shoulder cap sleeves (I attached a pic) and she said it was impossible because theres not enough space to sew them in the back since the back as low. That struck my as odd. I really can’t see a reason why it can’t be done. This lady is a Russian lady whose been in business for over 30 years and has great reviews. Should I take it somewhere else?
Post # 10
laurenkate1 : do you have any regrets? I feel like if i do decide to cut the train, the cathedral veil will sort of make up for it.
Post # 11
ShaunaNicole : Yes the cathedral veil would still look nice and dramatic walking down the aisle/in photos 🙂 Nope no regrets, my wedding is in 3 weeks but I’ve walked around the house with my dress on and love how easy it is to move in. Plus even with my tiny train I still nearly step on it if I step backwards so it was the right decision for me haha
Post # 12
Do something. Have it taken off of get another dress. Don’t be in pain on your wedding day.
Post # 13
I had my train removed and I have NO regrets. I never really wanted a train in the first place and tried to order my dress with out one, but the shop wouldn’t let me do that. I also got married outside, in the fall, and I just pictured the train full of leaves and sticks. And I hate everything about bustles. During my fittings they tried different bustles, none of which I liked. She finally just cut the train off and everting was soooo much better! My dress was so much lighter and so easy to move in.
Post # 14
It always looks great in pictures but all I can think of is all the dirt, dust, garbage, food, spilled drinks etc that will be getting dragged along under that long train all day long. Just always grossed me out and is why I decided on no train for my wedding dress 🤷
Post # 15
I had a huge train on the dress I bought but hated it, these pics show the bottom is when I had some of the train cut off but I wanted more and seamstress didn’t want to take more off 🙄 top pic is when I went to someone else and they took more off, would have been happy having shorter still but was a nice length. I did end up picking up my dress alot when moving around