(Closed) Should I divorce my husband because he NEVER stands up to his family?

• Txgirl88
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: June 2012

sarahmay85:  

sarah are you there???

• kb7
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: May 2014

Txgirl88:  Being that this was posted 3 years ago, I think it’s safe to say the OP might no longer use this site…

• ButternutPoppy
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: May 2014

Txgirl88:  If you don’t hear from the OP you may just want to post your own question and see if any newer bees have a similar experience and can help you.

• Priscilla1487
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: June 2011

sarahmay85:  Sarah, reading your post brought tears to me eyes. I have been going through this exact same scenerio with my husband for almost 4 years now. He would never come home until real late because he would be at his families house, his family would bad mouth me all the time and he would always believe it. A couple weeks i go i noticed he moved more of his things into his families house and i lost it! Also the hormones are not helping since im 2 months preggo but i packed all his things through them in bags and told him to come get it and move into the home where he’s been pretty much living at this whole time anyways. I guess may have not been the greatest idea but i was fed up, i wanted this to be a lesson to him but turns out he really is a jerk because now he says he will be filing for divorce because him and his family think im “crazy” for doing this. Can i ask you how the outcome turned out for you?? Right now im so heartbroken and shocked he would in turn try to get back at me for something he caused, it hurts so much 🙁

• joanna.zeiler
• 6 years ago

sarahmay85:  Hello, I am in a similar situation but have only recently begun to connect the dots, my husband is the only boy, with 4 sisters, and I look back now and sister #3 and #5 have always been a thorn in my side, they have called me out for the neighborhood that I grew up in, yet, they had no problem dumping their *emotuonal baggage* at my doorstep and leaving it for me to cleanup, and they both ass u me that I am jealous of them(!) if one is jealous of another, wouldn’t that mean that you would *want* to be in their life, or to be like them(?)! 

Sister #3 has gotten in my face and said, we thought you were a richy bitchy, and you were raised in a bad neighborhood (I most certainly was not, my parents raised us with morals/values), this is the same woman whose daughter was diagnosed with anorexia/bulimia, and she sent her to my mother’s and her boyfriend’s and never said a word to any of us, and her daughter came into our home/camper and was vomiting, we had no idea, nor did she inform the school that her daughter was sick(?)! 

Sister #5  She is a real piece of work, being an at home Mom, I was expected to beckon to her every whine/boo hoo, and take care of and raise her kids because her husband/the father of her kids was/is never around, i attempted to put a stop to it, and she also got in my face and told me I was jealous of her, I asked her of what, her marriage of convenience(?)! 

 

Our son was diagnosed with cancer, and I asked him who/what he needed, *our family/his girlfriend* was all that he requested, his family was told thank you, but no, thank you, and guess who forced her way in, and guess who allowed them to overstep the boundaries and disrespect his own son’s wishes, what kind of man does that, makes his own son at 106 lbs. weak, battle not on,y cancer, but fight to have his wishes respected(?)! 

 

And, in February, the day after my birthday, my husband comes home from work, to a calm, and *rages/reacts* to my unopened birthday card from his mother, he ran down the hall and into our son’s room and spewed filth, again, because he turned and flaw the card unopened on the kitchen counter(?)! 

 

He tells his family that its me, I frustrate him, and make him do it(?)! 

 

• jily
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: March 2015

sarahmay85:  If you want to go to marriage counseling and he doesn’t…your marriage is probably over. I’m sorry Bee, this sucks!

• jily
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: March 2015

kb7:  Awesome, way to pay attention, I totally missed this! I guess my super valuable advice is going to go unheeded…lol

• Shoot4theMoon
• 6 years ago

joanna.zeiler:  pateacher:  Thread is 3 years old and she is divorced. 

• tagerosan
• 6 years ago

• Wedding: September 2015

First of all, your hubby got some balls and went against the Mother-In-Law wishes and married you. Second, if you divorce it means your in laws won. However, only you can decide if this headache is worth keeping. They may never change, people get worse with age-not better. If you love your hubby and if he loves you too, then you may beat the odds and be happy, but he must stand up to them and defend you, otherwise you will be alone in this mareiage

• rememberwhoyouare
• 5 years ago

Leave him

• rememberwhoyouare
• 5 years ago

Who cares if he’s got balls, she’s unhappy 

• valentinexox
• 5 years ago

sarahmay85:  yes leave him if he dosnt love u a nuf or stick up for u he’s not right for u he’s a momas boy. Lol. Don’t rune ur life.  You’ll find some one better who will love u and stick up for u and always side whit u