Post # 1
I am in Ohio and while all of my FI’s family is here, most of my family is west coast. So there is a possibility not everyone could attend. My budget isn’t unlimited but my mom is paying for it and I can do what I want with it. Right now I am thinking of having a nice wedding here but I have also been thinking about a week vacation in Hawaii with my mom, my FI parents, and hopefully our siblings and their SO’s. What would you guys do? I cannot make up my mind on either because I would love to celebrate with everyone but with where I live and everyone else is, this probably wouldn’t be possible. Hawaii would be beautiful and I would be able to get married around the people that love us the most. I need some opinions, has anyone else made this decision? Were you happy with it, or wished you had a big wedding at home?
Post # 3
@MissS2MrsD: I would bring the issue up with your VIP guests. The ones you can’t imagine getting married without.
My husband’s sister just up and decided to get married in Hawaii, and honestly, we were a little annoyed about how much it cost (and her apparent lack of recognizing that it was putting people out for her just to get married barefoot on the beach). I guess people can always just decline, but for those who really want to be there, but it’s extremely difficult, it sucks.
Post # 4
Can you do a private beachside ceremony on the west coast and then a reception after? Or is it that the flights will eat up the budget costs, making a reception not possible?
Post # 5
@sapphiresun I would only be inviting our siblings and parents and the siblings probably would not be able to make it so it would just be our parents and that really is all I care about to be there. I already know the cost is too much to ask anyone else and our families would understand that we would have such a small ceremony
@honeybe199 if we did west coast, then none of his family would be able to come. I don’t think a lot of his family would be able to afford it which is why I originally chose to do it in Ohio in the first place because my west coast family could afford it but maybe not all of our friends.
Post # 6
What is the cost of a flight between Ohio and your home city? both and Hawaii? The way I look at it is if I am flying to a friend’s wedding I would be way more happy to fly to HI than OH as long as the cost is not extremely different. I say this because it seems you are excluding friends from your guest list and if a close freind did this because they assumed I would not travel to their wedding I would be sad to miss it. you also think you siblings would not be able to afford to attend but you would be fine with inviting them and accepting their decline. I think this puts them in a hard place. Again, from a personal perspective, I think I would struggle if I had to miss my brother or sister’s wedding for financial reasons. Most likely I would just charge the trip on a credit card so I could be there and resent the sibling for it later.
That being said, I think a destination wedding can be a lot of fun if your family is on board and excited to travel. I would float the idea around with each of your parents and siblings and see what type of feedbac you get. A close friend of mine did just that and is now planning a destination wedding in the Bahamas.