Post # 1
I am totally comfortable rocking a strapless dress at my reception and I love my dress as it is. I’m starting to wonder though if I should cover up a little bit for the church ceremony. I’m not sure if this is modesty or because I love the little lace boleros I see a lot of you sporting :o)
My question is whether a lace piece on top would be distracting because I have so much going on at the bottom of my dress.
The sash will be the ivory one, and the bow on the sash will be turned to the back. The bubble on the hem in front is being reduced a little.
This is the statement necklace my bestie bought me and that I simply MUST wear.
I was going to do the same look all day – the dress and the necklace – but I wonder whether I could do the lace up top for the ceremony and church pictures with some more delicate jewelry, and then toss the bolero and rock the necklace for the outside and around-town pictures and then the reception.
Thoughts on boleros:
(this is the back of a different one, I think it’s amazing.)
My hair will be back, low on the neck in a chignon of some sort. I hadn’t planned on earrings or other jewelry. My veil comes to a little below my waist and has just a few sparkles around the edges.
Post # 3
I think if it will make you more comfortable, that second one is still classy and covers up some and is pretty amazing. If I were having another wedding I would get a keyhole back lace dress. But unless your church has a dress code, it isn’t like your dress is hoochie.
Post # 4
@chasesgirl: Nope, no dress code – but it is a very traditional church (Congregational) and the pastor marrying us is a Southern Baptist (fiance’s uncle).
Post # 5
I think with the rocking necklace and the your dress with its gorgeous ruffles, sash & button detail (and no lace), that the bolero might be too much.
Post # 6
I would skip the bolero 🙂
Post # 7
Because your dress doesn’t show any cleave, I think it is perfectly tasteful.
Post # 8
@sweetcrackers: If it makes you feel better, my church is pretty traditional and conservative and has old conservative Baptist preachers and there have been LOTS of weddings with brides in strapless dresses and even the old blue hairs just thought she looked pretty. 🙂 Now if it were split to no mans land and see through, might be an issue. But your dress is super classy.
Post # 9
@the boss of you: I don’t have any cleave to show ;o)
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Personally, I think the lace would be much classier for the church. But I’m also old fashioned, and not wild about strapless in general. For a reception your dress looks AMAZING, but I think something a bit more conservative would be better for the ceremony. As for the necklace– rock it all day! It’s fantastic!!!
Post # 11
I don’t think there’s anything inappropriate about your dress at all! If you’re really concerned, you could ask the pastor who will be marrying you whether bare shoulders are okay. But if you love the look of boleros and want to wear one, you should go for it!
Post # 12
I voted for options one or two. I think #3 would be too much.
But, I have to say that I love your original look, so I think I’m leaning towards skip the bolero!
Post # 13
If you are going to wear a bolero, what about something like this one (without the flower).
Post # 14
I’m voting no bolero, and think it should be okay!
Post # 15
I think that if you felt it was worth asking, then on some level you probably feel it would be more appropriate to cover up a little bit for the church ceremony, and you should listen to that. Your dress is definitely classy, but I think you will have more peace of mind if you do the bolero (which is lovely) for the ceremony. Plus you get the added benefit of mixing it up while still wearing the same gown!
I’m doing something similar – I have a spaghetti strap gown topped with a long sleeved lace coat that I will be wearing for the ceremony and removing for the reception, and I’m really happy with how the whole thing has worked out. I have something that feels elegant and classy, it feels perfectly appropriate for our church and congregation, and then it gets a little more relaxed and fun for the party. Win-win situation!
Post # 16