Post # 1
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Bee Keeper
Here is my dilema:
I have a beautiful Blue by Enzoani Darwin dress that I wore for our May 12 wedding. The upside? It was fabulous! The downside? It has a massive rip in the front layer of tulle and lace.
It rained right at the end of of outdoor ceremony & in the craziness of the night with everyone dancing, spilling drinks, etc it took a beating… and as we were leaving, it got caught on something in the pouring rain and caused a huge rip.
My photog has offered to do another session for only $100 to get some more pics of the dress/me/DH if we want since our picture time got cut short due to weather. Darling Husband doesn’t want to this AT ALL. So— she offered to do a trash the dress session.
Right now- it is hanging up in my closet ( filthy).. and I have no grand plans for it.
What would you suggest? I’m torn– I NEVER in 1000 years that I would even consider a TTD session, but given the state of the dress and the fact that this is a really good offer from the photog: I may just take her up on it. Thoughts? Did anyone else do one?
Here’s my girl:
Post # 3
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Busy bee
i asked this question on here before but didn’t get a response. What’s ‘trash the dress’? You take pictures of the dress being damaged?
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
@londonchick: it really can be anything from just getting it dirty ( likw going out into a field or downtown in a park somewhere) to getting in water with the dress. I have seen some pictures of brides going to fairs or mud bogs in their dress and doing sessions. I have seen several with paint– where the bride may spray paint or something on the dress.
I am not out to full on ruin the dress– so if I did do it I think I would want something a little more tame. I ride horses occasionally and one of my thoughts was to do a riding session with my dress…. I think with the train it will make some good pictures and not totally ruin it– but if I want to do something like that I need to be prepared for horse sh** to get on it haha
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I’d do it.
I’m planning to do it after my wedding, only I’m buying a knockoff for the photoshoot and preserving the original.
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
Get on a horse. That would make some really cool pictures! I think it’s really neat when people get in the water and get underwater shots. If you aren’t into preserving your dress (which I feel can be kind of old-fashioned), go for it!
I really doubt your future daughter will be itching to wear your dress in 25+ years! I know I wore my Mom’s dress for a sorority event when I was a sophomore, but that’s the last time it even came close to fitting me and I would NEVER wear it for my own wedding (turtle neck, very victorian).
Go for it!
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Do it! If it was expensive, I’d say don’t bother- but it really isn’t a bad price and TOD photographs are often my favorites anyways. I say go horsebackriding. Maybe climb a tree or something. It sounds like so much fun, especially if your photographer is fun to hang around with!
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
Go for it!
The photos will be awesome!
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
These are a few of my inspiration photos:
Post # 10
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Busy bee
@Mrs_Amanda: but why would you want to ruin your dress?!
you looked really lovely on your wedding day btw
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
Do the horse photos! Your dress was amazeballs!
I will admit, I am not a fan of trash the dress sessions but if it’s something you like then go for it!
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
I could never actively trash my own dress – make the effort to destroy it. It makes me shudder to think! I’d try to repair the rip or keep it as is and save it. I’d rather show my dress with the rip to future generations and tell why that rip is there, then explain a trash the dress session. Just my thoughts.
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
@londonchick: awww thank you!
I don’t really want to ruin it– which is why I want to stay away from the paint/water/mud TTD thing. I do want some more pics in it, because we were unable to get a lot of the shots the photog wanted.
Unfortunately– Darling Husband is not much of a picture taker and doesn’t want to do another session ( he feels engagement and wedding is enough). I, however… paid a pretty penny for that dress and want more pictures in it haha. So I want to do an after session with some more informal/can get a little dirty pictures without totally ruining the dress. I am just on the fence about it!
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
@MrsElopement: thank you! I loved the dress… and I am typically not a fan of the trash the dress, either…. which is why I am having the great debate of 2012 going on in my head over this!
@BetterSherm: yeah… either way, I will keep and repair the dress. I am just wondering if I should do this before I go and repair/clean and put it up ( if I do preserve it)
@thepainter: yeah the price was amazing! Now for climbing a tree….. they may have to finish that session in the ER haha
@katie914: yeah I am not planning on keeping it for future generations to wear, I dont think my mother has her wedding dress. Which is why I kind of want to do something fun.
@MrsJoyful80: thanks for the input! 🙂
Post # 15
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Busy bee
i wouldn’t recommend that you trash your dress. to me it seems an odd thing to do to something to significant and beautiful. I have only ever heard of this thing since reading posts on here; I think it’s something common in America? I have not heard of this in the UK
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Honey bee
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I think people get the wrong idea when they hear it’s a “trash the dress” session … yeah there are people who get covered in paint, but in this case, riding a horse, I think the damage will be minimal. If you are planning to get it repaired and cleaned anyway, go for it!! It will be yet another extra special way to preserve one of the biggest events of your life. Those inspiration pics are gorgeous too!!
