Post # 1
So if you bees aren’t familiar with the dollar dance (I think it’s a southern thing) the DJ/band announces that the dollar dance is going to begin and the guest pay $1 (or more if they want) to dance with the bride or groom. I love the dance and think it’s a great way to get one on one with some guest that you may not get to see throughout the night plus the point of the dance is to give the happy couple a few extra $$$ to start their new life. My mom doesn’t like the idea of the dollar dance for our upcoming 2012 wedding but I’ve always loved it at weddings I’ve been too. What do you bees think; yes or no on the dollar dance?
Post # 3
I think you should go with whatever if comfortable to you. If its a tradition and normal for you/guests, and you like it, go for it. I’m from the northwest so I’m not used to this tradition and dont like it at all.
Post # 4
If your guests are used to it it’s ok, I’ve only been to one wedding that had it. I wouldn’t do it because I don’t like them, do what’s right for you.
Post # 5
Your mom is right. If you want one on one time, go visit the tables and be sure to dance with others throughout the night. As you mention, the point is to get more $$$. That is the part your mom is uncomfortable with. I would be too, and the dollar dance is common where I am.
Post # 6
my Fiance wants to do this. I can go either way. If you want to, than do it! 🙂
Post # 7
Most weddings I’ve attended have had the dollar dance and I don’t see anything wrong with it. It is a tradition in certain parts and if most of your guests have seen it before, they won’t be surprised. Those who want to participate definitely will and all the brides I know that have had it really enjoyed it and had a great experience. If you have always loved it, then I say go for it!
Post # 8
Its a Polish tradition, and yes we did it at our wedding. But, it was expected
Post # 9
If it is common in your area I say go for it. I have never been to a wedding without a dollar dance, although I havent given much throught to weather or not our wedding will have one, I imagine it will.
Post # 10
It sounds like your mom is uncomfortable with the money portion. If it’s not about making money, but a tradition you enjoy, why not do a similar dance, except instead of paying with dollars, you provide slips of paper and pens and your guests can write down wishes for your future happiness and “pay” with those? You get your “dollar dance” and one on one time with your guests in a fun way, and your mom doesn’t have to be embarrassed about the blatant asking for money.
Post # 11
We will being the dollar dance, and I have never been to a wedding that hasn’t done it. I have never heard anyone disagreeing with it or thinking it is rude. If you want to do it go for it, it is your big day!
Post # 12
As MrsSl82be noted, it is a Polish tradition so it is expected at our wedding. However, I am a little uncomfortable with the idea of asking people for money (even though most weddings I have been to have had them and everyone seemed fine with it). To compromise, I think we are going to have one but donate all of the money to charity. My brother is a firefighter and it amazes me that these men risk their lives on a daily basis for horrible pay. So we are going to announce before the dance that all monies collected will be donated to the Fallen Firefighter Fund, which helps out the families of firefighters who lose their lives while on duty.
Post # 13
I say go for it if that is what you want to do
Post # 14
@Elvis: This might be a good idea. Granted, I’m from the north where these are not popular, but I think theu’re not popular here for a good reason. I can’t imagine asking my guests to pay to dance with me after they’ve already travelled to the wedding and given me a nice gift, and in many cases a shower gift as well.
Post # 15
We don’t want to do one, but every wedding I’ve ever been to has done this. I think they are funny, but Fiance isn’t comfortable with it. Where we are from, it would be odd NOT to do this dance.
Post # 16
I have never been to a wedding that did not have one. My mom is getting married in two weeks and is not having one because her fiance is not comfortable with it. When I talked to my fiance he had never heard of it but does not have a problem with doing it at our wedding. I grew up in PA where it was common so I was surprised that just a lake over no one had ever heard of it.